What do you think is the best Approach to Living life?

[Warrior]

Muspet harekati (positive action, a term used for passive resistance and change by maintaining public order, not reacting to evil with evil, reaction to evil with good, and not creating disorder, and not creating chaos in order to change chaos.)

 

[Warrior]

EDIT: nevermind, i swore not to talk abut controversial topics

 

[Tennessee Jed]

Self-improvement: Always be expanding your comfort zone. But do it within limits--don't burn yourself out by taking on too much. Just keep an eye out for little adventures that take you out of your rut. Practice the Japanese art of kaizen: Occasional small improvements in your daily life (eating smarter, getting more exercise, healthy habits, etc.) that add up to big change across a lifetime.

The flip side of the self-improvement coin: Always have one thing in your life that you really love, and spend at least 20 minutes a day on it, every single day. It can be a person, a pet, a hobby, a favorite video game, a personal project, whatever. Something that really excites you and makes you hop out of bed in the morning looking forward to that part of the day. So that no matter what else is going on in your life, you always have that pleasant sense of fun anticipation going on in the back of your mind.

These values are very Fi of me: All about improving my own life rather than helping others. But hey, you gotta put your own house in order first before you can take on the world.

 

[Warrior]

Self-improvement: Always be expanding your comfort zone. But do it within limits--don't burn yourself out by taking on too much. Just keep an eye out for little adventures that take you out of your rut. Practice the Japanese art of kaizen: Occasional small improvements in your daily life (eating smarter, getting more exercise, healthy habits, etc.) that add up to big change across a lifetime.

The flip side of the self-improvement coin: Always have one thing in your life that you really love, and spend at least 20 minutes a day on it, every single day. It can be a person, a pet, a hobby, a favorite video game, a personal project, whatever. Something that really excites you and makes you hop out of bed in the morning looking forward to that part of the day. So that no matter what else is going on in your life, you always have that pleasant sense of fun anticipation going on in the back of your mind.

These values are very Fi of me: All about improving my own life rather than helping others. But hey, you gotta put your own house in order first before you can take on the world.

the self improvement by expanding my comfort zone is also my "growth state" in mbti as I am an INTP and like you, my secondary function is Ne.

 

[Tennessee Jed]

the self improvement by expanding my comfort zone is also my "growth state" in mbti as I am an INTP and like you, my secondary function is Ne.

Good point. Other personality types could register the self-improvement value as some other function (rather than a purely Fi value). They could see it as a way of exploring the world and trying new experiences, for example.

But in me, I register it as something kind of selfish, something I do for myself as a way of breaking away from the pack a bit and gaining some personal insight and advantage. Hence, I register it as an Fi thing in me personally.

 

[Warrior]

Good point. Other personality types could register the self-improvement value as some other function (rather than a purely Fi value). They could see it as a way of exploring the world and trying new experiences, for example.

But in me, I register it as something kind of selfish, something I do for myself as a way of breaking away from the pack a bit and gaining some personal insight and advantage. Hence, I register it as an Fi thing in me personally.

Interesting points.

 

[OptoGypsy]

Be in control of yourself, live for the timeless, induldge yourself in art and focus on your spiritual self while being able to support yourself. Self care, self love and have a close group of friends that can inspire you to be a better you and are able to discuss your ideas with you.

 

[Stigmata]

YOLO

 

[Tellenbach]

About 8 years ago, a guy filmed himself berating a Chick Fil-A worker and posted it on youtube. He was angry because Chick Fil-A's owner had donated to some organization that was pro-traditional marriage. It got him fired from his $200k/year job as the CFO of some company because of all the death threats the company received. It got him fired from a second high-paying job for the same reason. In 2015 (roughly three years after the incident), he was living in a trailer and on foodstamps.

Moral of the story: You really don't want to mistreat complete strangers and you really don't want to film yourself doing it. If you have disagreements with someone, that's not an excuse or reason to mistreat that person.

 

[ceecee]

 

[Peter Deadpan]

About 8 years ago, a guy filmed himself berating a Chick Fil-A worker and posted it on youtube. He was angry because Chick Fil-A's owner had donated to some organization that was pro-traditional marriage. It got him fired from his $200k/year job as the CFO of some company because of all the death threats the company received. It got him fired from a second high-paying job for the same reason. In 2015 (roughly three years after the incident), he was living in a trailer and on foodstamps.

Moral of the story: You really don't want to mistreat complete strangers and you really don't want to film yourself doing it. If you have disagreements with someone, that's not an excuse or reason to mistreat that person.

"Pro-traditional marriage" is a weird way of saying anti gay rights.

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

I think the best approach to life is to focus on actions and don't be confused by words and the opposite of reality games people play with them.

 

[Tomb1]

he was living in a trailer...

And? Trailer living too tough for ya?!

 

[???]

Learning how to recognize and filter out the noise.

 

[Tennessee Jed]

Learning how to recognize and filter out the noise.

Nice contribution from the OP. I agree: There is lots of noise out there.

Along the same lines, I would add: Be skeptical. Despite what they may tell you, most people are looking out for their own interests, not yours. It doesn't mean that those people are bad or wrong or evil. It just means you have to be aware of your own interests and needs and make an effort to get them met too. Say "no" sometimes, draw some boundaries, and do a little horse-trading to ensure that you get a fair shake. (And avoid those people who simply don't have it in them to give you a fair shake.)

 

[Lark]

"Pro-traditional marriage" is a weird way of saying anti gay rights.

Marriage used to mean a relationship between members of the opposite sex.

Then THAT idea became taboo.

It means something else now. Some sort of contract maybe.

There isnt any word for a relationship between members of the opposite sex anymore. These rights are strange that involve doing such violence to the english language.

 

[Lexicon]

Marriage used to mean a relationship between members of the opposite sex.

Then THAT idea became taboo.

It means something else now. Some sort of contract maybe.

There isnt any word for a relationship between members of the opposite sex anymore. These rights are strange that involve doing such violence to the english language.

Marriage is a legal union between two people who love one another & pledge to spend their lives together through thick and thin. What's in their pants seems irrelevant. Marriage between heterosexual couples is definitely not taboo here in the US. It is widely celebrated by people of all sexual orientation & religious or atheistic background alike, more often than not. Healthy people celebrate love when it is found.

It's not a topic people avoid discussing in polite company or anything like that.

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

Marriage used to mean a relationship between members of the opposite sex.

Then THAT idea became taboo.

It means something else now. Some sort of contract maybe.

There isnt any word for a relationship between members of the opposite sex anymore. These rights are strange that involve doing such violence to the english language.

A relationship between members of the opposite sex is not taboo. It's generally encouraged by society. The term is "heterosexual relationship".

Traditional marriage is about transfer of property rights and procreation in a family lineage and relies on the inequality of genders. In its traditional form one gender submits to the other, typically not being able to find gainful employment outside the home, traditionally it was legal to beat your wife in the U.S. until 1920. The wedding veil is a symbol of non-personhood, the giving away of the bride from father to husband a sign that she is property and not in a position to make decisions for herself. That inequality is what typically made it a stable social contract. It was not ethical, but externally stable in that it tended to last the duration of people's lives. Traditional marriage.

 

[Schrödinger's Name]

Skate fast, eat ass.

Though... I have my doubts if that's the best way to go through life.

But if you don't like skateboards you can also use a sled. There are so many options, so many ways to live life!

 

[ceecee]

Marriage used to mean a relationship between members of the opposite sex.

Then THAT idea became taboo.

It means something else now. Some sort of contract maybe.

There isnt any word for a relationship between members of the opposite sex anymore. These rights are strange that involve doing such violence to the english language.

No. But you already know this.

An excellent life rule everyone can adhere to; When others are granted rights, that doesn't mean anything changes for you. You don't get less rights than you once had. It's not a fucking pie.

BTW, I have a husband. My husband is only applicable to me. You are free to find a husband or a wife any sort of life partner you wish. That choice doesn't impact me in any way, even if you believe it does.