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Toxic Feminism

When you think "feminism", what do you think of?


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Doctor Cringelord

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I think what he is saying is that if you're not a feminist you're probably a sex offender.

Oh, I've seen him make that argument before, I think it was about MRAs though, saying how he saw a UK study saying people who supported MRA causes were more likely to be a sex offender or something to that effect. He's made that claim multiple times but never backs it up with any citation of where he saw the supposed study from these profilers. So I'm not sure if he's just another person who uses the terms "MRA" and "misogynist" interchangeably, since that study, according to him at various times, refers to either.

I'd never make that sort of generalization about MRAs or feminists or participants in any other movement. It's lazy and dishonest, and another strawman tactic to discredit or dismiss anyone he doesn't agree with or believe. I don't always agree with feminists but I'm not going to start saying they're probably more likely to cheat on their partners or be lonely cat ladies or some other bogus ad hominem bullshit.
 

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[MENTION=7280]Survive & Stay Free[/MENTION]

http://https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1845293711/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1506623752&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=misogyny&dpPl=1&dpID=41TEuvX9YbL&ref=plSrch

Recommended reading on the history of gender relations and gender stereotypes, in case you are interested. There have been more changes and fluctuations than many would think.

It's also interesting to see that modern research on early humans is worlds apart from what many people Imagine that era to be like.

And this thread keeps reminding me of the fact that a viking warrior grave that was long assumed to be that of a man (because duh, right?) recently turned out to be the grave of a female warrior.
 

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haha.


Anyway...I really gots to go.


I hope you got what you wanted out of this [MENTION=8936]highlander[/MENTION]

thinking of you.
 

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[MENTION=7280]Survive & Stay Free[/MENTION]

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Recommended reading on the history of gender relations and gender stereotypes, in case you are interested. There have been more changes and fluctuations than many would think.

It's also interesting to see that modern research on early humans is worlds apart from what many people Imagine that era to be like.

And this thread keeps reminding me of the fact that a viking warrior grave that was long assumed to be that of a man (because duh, right?) recently turned out to be the grave of a female warrior.

Yeah, I'm aware of a lot of the changes over time, I read an interesting book called myth and mother right or something like that once, might have been an author Bachofin? Maybe I'm not spelling that correctly, I think they researched a lot of mythology too.

I'm aware of the whole idea of a primeval matriarchy, I'm not sure about it to be honest, its similar to the ideas of Marx and others that historical research supports the idea of an original primitive communism.

Which its hoped can be retrieved, which itself is a little like the original idyllic Eden/paradise, from which human kind was expelled, and to which its hoped everyone will return, either after death, as a spirit, or at the end of history/resurrection, which is the judeo-christian narrative over the old and new testaments.

A lot of this interests me from the stand point of the, strictly speaking, present and tendencies to make projections into/onto the past and/or future, the Golden Age is in the past/future, the once and future Gold Age (Once and Future King). Although not aiming at a Joseph Campbell derail of the thread or anything.

The viking story wouldnt surprise me in the least, there are lots of similar stories from the Celtic world too, which had a lot of revered female leaders, depending who you ask its something which is still a strong feature in Irish and Italian families and cultures, the status of women and mothers. Although when you think about it, like the thread I posted a while back about the status of women in Sparta, any warrior society which exempts one gender from battle naturally empowers them because the other gender will likely perish at a greater rate and not be able to pass on property or inheritance in quite the same way.
 

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I watched the movie The Battle of the Sexes last night, and what struck me was that Billy Jean King's husband was emasculated, and Bobby Riggs, the tennis opponent of Billy Jean King, was also emasculated by his wife.

So we had not one but two emasculated men as collateral damage of the battle of the sexes.

And I wondered, had I been emasculated. And although I am attracted to strong women, I have avoided and rejected emotional blackmail, and I have avoided and rejected outright domination, and I have avoided and rejected emotional and psychological manipulation.

I have done this even though I don't present as a strong man, I am comfortable in my own skin, and I am immediately in touch with my inner self. I have a touch-stone within myself enabling me to guide myself around strong women, without getting lost or emasculated.
 
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I watched the movie The Battle of the Sexes last night, and what struck me was that Billy Jean King's husband was emasculated, and Bobby Riggs, the tennis opponent of Billy Jean King, was also emasculated by his wife.

So we had not one but two emasculated men as collateral damage of the battle of the sexes.

And I wondered, had I been emasculated. And although I am attracted to strong women, I have avoided and rejected emotional blackmail, and I have avoided and rejected outright domination, and I have avoided and rejected emotional and psychological manipulation.

I have done this even though I don't present as a strong man, I am comfortable in my own skin, and I am immediately in touch with my inner self. I have a touch-stone within myself enabling me to guide myself around strong women, without getting lost or emasculated.

Take a read through Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. It's available on audiobook. The premise is that within all of us, man/woman, we have a masculine/feminine polarity. Sometimes, a man will display more feminine polarity and attracts a woman with a masculine opposite, and vice versa. The goal of the Superior Man should be to balance the two aspects instead of skewing too far in either direction. Fairly interesting stuff. A three hour listen in total, if you're into that sort of stuff.
 

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haha.


Anyway...I really gots to go.


I hope you got what you wanted out of this [MENTION=8936]highlander[/MENTION]

thinking of you.

This went on way longer than I thought it would. That's for sure. I'll have to read all of it some time.
 

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This went on way longer than I thought it would

Exhibit F-128, in case anyone still thinks that feminism is a neat and simple concept that benefits everyone and everyone can get behind.
 

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Any thread about feminism or gender created around these parts is bound to go on forever. For some reason, it's a popular discussion topic.
 

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The anti-feminists got their own echo chamber going on in this thread.
 

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Free Speech here, Free Speech there.
Ironically, everyone wants to speak and forcefeed words in the mouth of the other, but no one wants to listen.




I'm not sure where those posting negatively in these threads are finding their feminists. Online in strident extremist blogs, perhaps? I know quite a few feminists IRL. I don't think I have heard a single one of them talk about "toxic masculinity" or questing for power. They are too busy volunteering with the local women's shelter, encouraging girls to consider STEM education, raising money for local health clinics, running for office, supporting candidates for office, etc. In short, they are acting, not talking, and the actions they are taking benefit men as well as women; and women across the spectrum.


Sounds like I had a deal, then. I had no brothers, so my father did things with me that he might have done with a son: took me fishing, taught me woodworking and how to fix things, etc. My mother taught me to cook and sew. Together they provided a stable and loving home for me as a child, but ultimately I had to learn to protect myself, and each was a role model only in certain specific respects.


I agree that modern parents are often falling down on the job. External forces definitely make their job harder, though, everything from schools trying to usurp their authority, to modern marketing, to the increased litigiousness of society, to the increased judgment of others, exacerbated by social media. Parents aren't given space to teach their children how to be adults, as many of these forces insist on treating them as children until the magic day that they turn 18 or 21. But we must teach our daughters to be assertive and independent, just as we must teach our sons to be compassionate and nurturing. Traits like these, after all, are human traits and should be part of everyone's toolbox.




Remember them fondly.

One might think that everyone who agrees with a pre-conceived social architecture is abiding to traditionalism and has become part of the herd, but little do they know, that it is utterly asinine to discredit an idea out of appeal to novelty.

Everything must be dissected, kept or erased, and optimized, not frowned upon to meet personal proclivities of self-defeating progressives.

The role models you're describing are the epitome of Father-Mother archetypes that have proved to be most efficient for the survival of society, and its overall cohesion.

The word Patriarchy, to some, seems like the depiction of an authoritarian masculine fortress where the male dictates every fucking move to his slaves. "Hand me the freaking remote-control".
Well, yes. Whatever rocks your boat. If someone thinks like that, they're right. Every third wave feminist who bleached her hair has now apparently a chance to now become the Breaker Of Chains, Queen of the Andals and the First Men.

The downfall of western civilization is enabled by the mayhem that we now all witness. We're all divided, and soon, as the momentum is building up slowly, the foundation will subside until its absolute disintegration, leaving the west in its most vulnerable state. An easy target to anyone thinking about storming in, smelling the mephitis of this weakness.

How can Americans be united again while their sole purpose is seemingly ripping everything apart?

If that's their definition of Ordo ab chao, then they're indisputably right. Nonetheless, no one gets to choose who's going to prevail in the end. A new outsider party might as well claim their share of the cake, if not all of it. We all agree though, that such a turn of events, as melodramatic in exhibition, burlesque and grotesque, is a necessary evil until the pendulum finds its equilibrium.


Humans are inherently selfish even in their most benign acts, but what we see of violence and bloodshed, is a cheap replica of self-righteous activism.
Within us, resides the Selfish Gene, that gene which entices us to survive, that gene that pumps cortisol into our veins in critical moments to run for our lives, that gene that would make a man or a woman sacrifice themselves for their families, that gene that leads the few inside a unified collective to sacrifice themselves for the sake of many. It's the same gene that runs the program of Survival.exe in the background while we're going normally about our lives. It's a primordial instinct we all share.

Now, how did we as humans concoct a way to live without being concerned everyday that a virus might thwart our daily functioning? We live in organisations, herds, tribes, and inside these tribes, Patriarchy proved to be the most efficient Core processor, among other processors that were always doomed to fail.

In Patriarchy, men assumed their role, and women assumed their role. Men were providers, and women were the caregivers. This model would only be obscene inside of a mind that didn't have a Father figure and a Mother figure fulfilling their roles. Men were powerful, carrying the Selfish gene which will allow their offspring to thrive, and women could choose with whom to mate. Women are subconsciously looking for the best genes that have a higher rate of survival, and that is hardcoded inside their brains. Of course, other than being healthy and thriving, that survival aspect is linked to the behavior of the man in society, and in the relationship.

In Patriarchy, there is no equality. There is partnership.

Just by example, the women in my family are lawyers, engineers, doctors, professors, can fully earn their life, but still, some of them decided to stay home and raise their kids. They have a maternal bond with the family, and know that their place is a place that none can overtake, and they fill it proudly. The role they play in the upbringing of the next generations is something they take seriously, but even more compellingly, they do it out of love. Of course this relationship of partnership makes the bonds even stronger.

If I go back home to find a pantagruelic feast, it doesn't mean I can't cook myself. I'm one hell of a cook.
If they let me take care of them, it doesn't mean they can't take care of themselves. They can easily earn their lives.
What does this show? It shows that there is trust. The trust they put in me, is something a patriarch should honor, just like I appreciate their existence in my life, and see to their every need.

A good patriarch doesn't only provide. He's the emotional and spiritual leader, before being a provider and overseer. The last one to eat, and the last one to sleep.

Beyond politics that can assign roles to people who are unable to fulfill, but should address any injustice when it comes to merit, one should discuss ethos and how to infuse the better principles, the lost wisdom.



@<a href="http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/members/7280.html" target="_blank">Survive & Stay Free</a>

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Recommended reading on the history of gender relations and gender stereotypes, in case you are interested. There have been more changes and fluctuations than many would think.

It's also interesting to see that modern research on early humans is worlds apart from what many people Imagine that era to be like.


Yes, gender roles have been fluctuacting in many cultures and civilizations throughout history. That's a fact. We even have living examples of matriarchal models, like the chinese Mosuo tribe.

And this thread keeps reminding me of the fact that a viking warrior grave that was long assumed to be that of a man (because duh, right?) recently turned out to be the grave of a female warrior.

So what? There have been great women throughout history who left undying legacies. Let's just take the Islamic history for example, where Patriarchy was the divine Quranic word, in which many awe-inspiring women contributed in the expansion of the Islamic Eastern culture during the Jahiliyya period to the Andalus period, from poets like Hind Bint Utba, scientists and mathematicians like Lubna of Cordoba and Sutayta, to great warriors like Khawla bint al-Azwar and Nusayba bint Kaab. There were female leaders, intellects, rulers, queens, and they fought even in great wars.

Great women were behind great men. Great men who could have been just average if they didn't love them, or have been motivated enough to keep up. Yeah, some men are like that. That's why we associate the word "nurture" to women, because you, have the seductive touch to unleash latent potential inside men. Men can "nurture" themselves, but not as good. "Food tastes better when shared together".

Whoever denies that women played and still play important roles in our lives, are dreadful infants.


I actually didn't get that from what was being said. I also liked that it acknowledged woman on man violence.

I watched some videos about the topic, talked to some people, and the plague is spreading like wildfire.

Classic touch down. The media directs public opinion and influences the minds and consolidates an image that the most heinous forms of protests are taking place across the whole country. People pick up the cues and get in a trance. We perpetuate the phenomenon by talking about it all the time. We start to relate and imagine scenarios in our lives. We choose to play the role of either the victim or the savior since no one of course want to be the villain. We act on those whims for whatever personal motives we have. We create the worst simulacrum of our opponents, and we charge.

Among the aftermath of that assault is some daunting woman on man violence. I won't preach the super power men should be all masculine and that bullshit, since apparently, there are some who are pretty hurt and left with some unsightly emotional scars. You can't tell a man to make a stand if his legs are broken, but who's to nurse them back to health? My sister was crying when she watched the Red Pill documentary.

This is a video talking about it.

 

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Classic touch down. The media directs public opinion and influences the minds and consolidates an image that the most heinous forms of protests are taking place across the whole country. People pick up the cues and get in a trance. We perpetuate the phenomenon by talking about it all the time. We start to relate and imagine scenarios in our lives. We choose to play the role of either the victim or the savior since no one of course want to be the villain. We act on those whims for whatever personal motives we have. We create the worst simulacrum of our opponents, and we charge.


Help me out here Saqcrophagus... Why does there have to be a villain?
 

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Exhibit F-128, in case anyone still thinks that feminism is a neat and simple concept that benefits everyone and everyone can get behind.
Curious as to why you don't actually quote my post
 

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Many of men's problems are a result of sexism.
 

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Curious as to why you don't actually quote my post

I didn't want to summon you for such a trivial point. Figured you'd read at your leisure (exhibit being the length of the thread, not your remarking on that fact).
 

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Women weren't allowed to vote in Switzerland until 1971, even 1990 in the case of the canton of Appenzell. Spanish women were not allowed to vote under Franco and didn't get the vote back until 1978.
Spousal rape didn't get illegal in all American states until 1993, Germany waited until 1997.

This shit is hardly ancient history.


But third generation feminism is asking some important questions as well. Until today women are underrepresented in politics, in business and in research and merely tokens or decoration in much of the arts (Bechtel test). There is still some truth to good old Simone's thoughts on the "deuxième sexe". Male is neutral female is flagged - even in 2017.
 

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Yeah, I'm aware of a lot of the changes over time, I read an interesting book called myth and mother right or something like that once, might have been an author Bachofin? Maybe I'm not spelling that correctly, I think they researched a lot of mythology too.

I'm aware of the whole idea of a primeval matriarchy, I'm not sure about it to be honest, its similar to the ideas of Marx and others that historical research supports the idea of an original primitive communism.

Which its hoped can be retrieved, which itself is a little like the original idyllic Eden/paradise, from which human kind was expelled, and to which its hoped everyone will return, either after death, as a spirit, or at the end of history/resurrection, which is the judeo-christian narrative over the old and new testaments.

A lot of this interests me from the stand point of the, strictly speaking, present and tendencies to make projections into/onto the past and/or future, the Golden Age is in the past/future, the once and future Gold Age (Once and Future King). Although not aiming at a Joseph Campbell derail of the thread or anything.

The viking story wouldnt surprise me in the least, there are lots of similar stories from the Celtic world too, which had a lot of revered female leaders, depending who you ask its something which is still a strong feature in Irish and Italian families and cultures, the status of women and mothers. Although when you think about it, like the thread I posted a while back about the status of women in Sparta, any warrior society which exempts one gender from battle naturally empowers them because the other gender will likely perish at a greater rate and not be able to pass on property or inheritance in quite the same way.

Oh, I wasn't talking about a matriarchy. There's not much evidence for it, as far as I know. But from what I read, researchers now assume that both men and women hunted and it was the elderly who took care of the kids. Basically, yes, there was division of labor, but between the ablebodied and the physically weak of either sex, not between men and women. I only recently read that the bodies of women showed the same amount of Injuries from hunting /fighting as those of men. This would also explain why humans can survive so long after their fertility leaves them. Seniors have an important social function.

In India construction work, especially road construction, is done by women. I have seen it with my own eyes. Just as women all over the world have traditionally worked and still work in most parts of the world. They leave the kids with the grandparents or carry them on their back or the little ones work as well. And I'm talking about hard physical labor.

I am highly skeptical when people talk of human nature. Of course it exists, to a point, but let's not assume to know it just from superficially observing our own current surrounding. Nature and culture are notoriously hard to seperate.
 

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It's really weird. I go online and everyone is arguing about feminism. Then I go into the real world and get all nervous and find out almost nobody is actually that hung up about this stuff. Very few women I encounter in my day-to-day life are particularly zealous or "strident" feminists.

Today I got all worried that I had slipped up by referring to a young woman as a "girl", thus infantilizing her. I back-pedaled and apologized to all the women in the conversation. They told me to calm the fuck down, and that they hadn't even registered that I had done this. :blush:

With all the media I consume, I think I sometimes live in an exaggerated, funhouse mirror version of life. And then I get disoriented when everything is real and returns to its normal proportions.
 

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It's really weird. I go online and everyone is arguing about feminism. Then I go into the real world and get all nervous and find out almost nobody is actually that hung up about this stuff. Very few women I encounter in my day-to-day life are particularly zealous or "strident" feminists.

Today I got all worried that I had slipped up by referring to a young woman as a "girl", thus infantilizing her. I back-pedaled and apologized to all the women in the conversation. They told me to calm the fuck down, and that they hadn't even registered that I had done this. :blush:

With all the media I consume, I think I sometimes live in an exaggerated, funhouse mirror version of life. And then I get disoriented when everything is real and returns to its normal proportions.



Yah...F_J no one is going to give a shit about "girl". Unless you're arguing to have women's rights taken away like a small handful of dudes on this site...I highly doubt you are going to run into anything by way of "feminist sentiment". It's good to see you.
 
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