On what info are you basing this assumption? As anti-feminist as you are, I can't help but thinking your own misconceptions on this issue are at least in part due to the feminist narratives over the last 50 years. I'm not saying "all feminists" but feminism in general emphasized the plight of female victims in something that affects both sexes at roughly the same numbers. So a lot of people have that narrative etched into their minds and by default overlook or fail to even consider both sexes as victims in the equation. I think we naturally assume a woman if we hear the words "domestic abuse victim." This assumption itself is a form of sexism ingrained in a lot of people, regardless of whether or not they're feminists, anti-feminists, liberals, conservatives, et al, and I think feminism in part has fed into it, however it would be unfair to blame feminism entirely, and yes I understand some feminists acknowledge the problem is not faced exclusively by one sex/gender. I would also suggest a lot of these perceptions and narratives were already ingrained in our cultural mind prior to modern feminism:
The Unknown History of MISANDRY: Society’s Acceptance of Domestic Violence? We have this narrative that domestic violence has always been tolerated in our society, but not quite.
The Rule of Thumb has nothing to do with wife beating. Lies the feminists told me. Either way, the point you made wasn't as much a statistic-based fact as it was a statement about a general ideal held by society in the past. Yes, you're correct that what people considered
ideal would have been respect and obedience toward husbands and fathers, but we both know society's ideals, at any given time, don't necessarily get reflected 100% of the time in reality.