Cold
And I'm sad. Again.
- Joined
- May 5, 2016
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 5w4
Hello everyone, it's my first post here at typology central. I've created this account because I've got burning questions to ask about all of your opinions on my MBTI! So I've filled in a questionnaire. I would appreciate all of your thoughts on this!
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
I value logic over feelings when making a decision and I find it difficult to communicate my emotions because I think it's awkward to talk about myself. However, I would still like to talk about it sometimes. I also enjoy being engaged in intellectual discussions. However, sometimes I would be touched by emotional appeals and am someone who is considerate about other's feelings unless I feel really terrible that day. I also like to be sentimental about things and especially like to read about tragic stories because it would tug at my 'heartstrings' and be sad, and I do like to feel sad.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
I yearn for a relaxed life. I've been stressed with so much work these days that I feel like I don't have time for relaxation. And I feel worried all the time because I think I wouldn't have any job in the future (I'm still a student) because I think I'm incompetent so I worry constantly, hence just want to live a relaxed life free of worries.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
I can't really think of anything...
4) What makes you feel inferior?
When I'm unable to keep up with an intellectual discussion with my friends because I don't understand what they are talking about.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I think about the pros and cons of each decision and how it will affect anyone involved.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
When working on a project, I would try to get the project done in the shortest and most effective way and as a added bonus. I would like to have control of the outcome because I don't really trust others to complete it perfectly.
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
A time where I had a lot of fun was when I was filming a video with my friends where we made a parody of a popular movie. Even though we had to refilm it many times, that was the fun part as my friends kept making different interesting suggestions as to how it should be acted out and the end result was especially funny since we added our own touch the to plot in the movie.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
I'm really bad at memorising facts, so I would prefer to have a hands-on experience so it would be better ingrained in my memory.
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
I think I'm not a very organized person as my room is very messy. However, I do feel annoyed when I see the messiness, just that I am too lazy to organize them... When I do organize them, however, I would feel a sense of fufilledness.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I judge new ideas by looking for information that supports it.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I find harmony by making sure I follow what I believe and am being myself, but it would be an added bonus if everyone is doing fine.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I think before speaking especially when I'm with unfamiliar people but with my friends, I would be more confident about voicing my thoughts. I prefer one-on-one communication.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I would like to know where I am jumping before leaping. Action speaks more than words as I think words are just things that will not manifest into actual actions, instead, they are used just a way to shirk from responsibility.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
I will reject the friend nicely by explaining that I have other things to do, then promise that I would accompany him/her next time.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
When I'm stressed out, I would keep all my thoughts to myself and become increasingly frustrated at the messiness of my room and might become angry. But after thinking about the issue, I would realise that it is pointless to be angry as nothing can be accomplished, and will calm down and try to continue with my work after some 'slacking'.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
What makes me dislike the personalities of some people is that they are irresponsible. I cannot stand it when people cannot be responsible for themselves and in the end implicate others. I also dislike others who slam my ideas when I discuss abstract ideas and about the future as some people would just say "we don't need to care about the future because we should just be living in this moment".
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I really like talking with other people about abstract ideas, such as the meaning of life and like to speculate about various things, such as whether there is an afterlife and maybe we are living in our second life already, just that we have no recollections of our previous life.
18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
I do not pay attention to small details such as the colour of other's hair unless they are really striking, whether they have glasses or not or if they have long hair or short hair. This has come to my attention as when I think about my teachers, I still don't know who has glasses and who doesn't and who has short or long hair.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
My friends perceive me as a cold person that does not care about others feelings. Their perception is wrong because I actually care about others a lot, just that I don't necessarily show it because I just do not feel the inclination to do so. I am the type of person who would care for someone in the background, which goes undetected all the time. And unfortunately, my friends would never say that I am a nice person because they perceive me as an evil person because of some jokes that I have made that I meant no harmful intent about. (I am a person who likes to joke a lot and this leads to lots of misunderstandings) One example is when my class decided to set up an encouragement board for everyone in the class to post their worries and for the others to write their encouragements, so I just joked that I would reply "You suck" to their worries. However, my friends took it seriously and "scolded" me that I was mean.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
I would like to stay at home with the aircon on and listen to some songs and read through some forums and blogs that I follow (including this forum). Then, I would like to watch some dramas and eat some instant noodles. And towards the end of the day, I would like to listen to some sad songs and reflect about my life
So that's my answers to the questionnaire, I'll just add some additional information:
- My Enneagram is 5w4, which describes me very well, and my socionics is LII, even though I haven't read much about it to judge if it describes me.
- I'm also someone who thinks too much, like there was once I went to the toilet and when I came out, my mom had disappeared. So I just started to have thoughts that she had abandoned me and my brain started to think and piece together bits of information as to how the plan happened. But later I found my mom, apparently she had been trying to look for me too and we just missed each other. However, I'm still suspicious until now... (Because I don't think I'm exactly a very likable person so I wouldn't be surprised if my family wanted to abandon me)
- My favourite kind of quotes are from INFJs and INFPs and they mostly describe me, such as the mbti 'squad' things on tumblr. And I mostly relate to the INFJ and INFP posts. However, I have considered INTP too. Some of the aspects of the INTP personality describe me, such as being open-minded, objective and I frequently second-guess myself, but I wouldn't see myself as that smart and analytical. I have an XNTP friend who gets very excited when she talks about things, but I'm never that excited as her.
Thanks for reading and I really appreciate all of your inputs.
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
I value logic over feelings when making a decision and I find it difficult to communicate my emotions because I think it's awkward to talk about myself. However, I would still like to talk about it sometimes. I also enjoy being engaged in intellectual discussions. However, sometimes I would be touched by emotional appeals and am someone who is considerate about other's feelings unless I feel really terrible that day. I also like to be sentimental about things and especially like to read about tragic stories because it would tug at my 'heartstrings' and be sad, and I do like to feel sad.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
I yearn for a relaxed life. I've been stressed with so much work these days that I feel like I don't have time for relaxation. And I feel worried all the time because I think I wouldn't have any job in the future (I'm still a student) because I think I'm incompetent so I worry constantly, hence just want to live a relaxed life free of worries.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
I can't really think of anything...
4) What makes you feel inferior?
When I'm unable to keep up with an intellectual discussion with my friends because I don't understand what they are talking about.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I think about the pros and cons of each decision and how it will affect anyone involved.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
When working on a project, I would try to get the project done in the shortest and most effective way and as a added bonus. I would like to have control of the outcome because I don't really trust others to complete it perfectly.
7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
A time where I had a lot of fun was when I was filming a video with my friends where we made a parody of a popular movie. Even though we had to refilm it many times, that was the fun part as my friends kept making different interesting suggestions as to how it should be acted out and the end result was especially funny since we added our own touch the to plot in the movie.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)
I'm really bad at memorising facts, so I would prefer to have a hands-on experience so it would be better ingrained in my memory.
9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?
I think I'm not a very organized person as my room is very messy. However, I do feel annoyed when I see the messiness, just that I am too lazy to organize them... When I do organize them, however, I would feel a sense of fufilledness.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I judge new ideas by looking for information that supports it.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I find harmony by making sure I follow what I believe and am being myself, but it would be an added bonus if everyone is doing fine.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I think before speaking especially when I'm with unfamiliar people but with my friends, I would be more confident about voicing my thoughts. I prefer one-on-one communication.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I would like to know where I am jumping before leaping. Action speaks more than words as I think words are just things that will not manifest into actual actions, instead, they are used just a way to shirk from responsibility.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
I will reject the friend nicely by explaining that I have other things to do, then promise that I would accompany him/her next time.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
When I'm stressed out, I would keep all my thoughts to myself and become increasingly frustrated at the messiness of my room and might become angry. But after thinking about the issue, I would realise that it is pointless to be angry as nothing can be accomplished, and will calm down and try to continue with my work after some 'slacking'.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
What makes me dislike the personalities of some people is that they are irresponsible. I cannot stand it when people cannot be responsible for themselves and in the end implicate others. I also dislike others who slam my ideas when I discuss abstract ideas and about the future as some people would just say "we don't need to care about the future because we should just be living in this moment".
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I really like talking with other people about abstract ideas, such as the meaning of life and like to speculate about various things, such as whether there is an afterlife and maybe we are living in our second life already, just that we have no recollections of our previous life.
18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life
I do not pay attention to small details such as the colour of other's hair unless they are really striking, whether they have glasses or not or if they have long hair or short hair. This has come to my attention as when I think about my teachers, I still don't know who has glasses and who doesn't and who has short or long hair.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
My friends perceive me as a cold person that does not care about others feelings. Their perception is wrong because I actually care about others a lot, just that I don't necessarily show it because I just do not feel the inclination to do so. I am the type of person who would care for someone in the background, which goes undetected all the time. And unfortunately, my friends would never say that I am a nice person because they perceive me as an evil person because of some jokes that I have made that I meant no harmful intent about. (I am a person who likes to joke a lot and this leads to lots of misunderstandings) One example is when my class decided to set up an encouragement board for everyone in the class to post their worries and for the others to write their encouragements, so I just joked that I would reply "You suck" to their worries. However, my friends took it seriously and "scolded" me that I was mean.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
I would like to stay at home with the aircon on and listen to some songs and read through some forums and blogs that I follow (including this forum). Then, I would like to watch some dramas and eat some instant noodles. And towards the end of the day, I would like to listen to some sad songs and reflect about my life
So that's my answers to the questionnaire, I'll just add some additional information:
- My Enneagram is 5w4, which describes me very well, and my socionics is LII, even though I haven't read much about it to judge if it describes me.
- I'm also someone who thinks too much, like there was once I went to the toilet and when I came out, my mom had disappeared. So I just started to have thoughts that she had abandoned me and my brain started to think and piece together bits of information as to how the plan happened. But later I found my mom, apparently she had been trying to look for me too and we just missed each other. However, I'm still suspicious until now... (Because I don't think I'm exactly a very likable person so I wouldn't be surprised if my family wanted to abandon me)
- My favourite kind of quotes are from INFJs and INFPs and they mostly describe me, such as the mbti 'squad' things on tumblr. And I mostly relate to the INFJ and INFP posts. However, I have considered INTP too. Some of the aspects of the INTP personality describe me, such as being open-minded, objective and I frequently second-guess myself, but I wouldn't see myself as that smart and analytical. I have an XNTP friend who gets very excited when she talks about things, but I'm never that excited as her.
Thanks for reading and I really appreciate all of your inputs.
