Animal
So carnal it's spiritual
- Joined
- Mar 9, 2013
- Messages
- 650
- MBTI Type
- SeFi
- Enneagram
- 4
Ah wow.. I can relate to a good portion of this. I have a do-it-yourself mentality as well.I also save up lots of money. I was saving up for a car since I was 12, then bought my car when I was 20. I'm extremely frugal as well. I attribute these traits to being a socionics "yielding" dichotomy moreso than enneagram Sp. Don't touch my food, don't touch my things, don't touch my money.
As I engage in these things I also tend to ignore when I'm hungry, I go to the bathroom at the absolute last possible minute, and I tend to hide the fact that I'm in pain at all and don't ask for help until after I gave myself a slip disk from lifting something heavy. Not because I'm stubborn and prideful, but because I legitimately think I can do it myself, and asking for help is too much work.
I'm also a capricorn and my most prominent trait in the big 5 was stability. So its hard to understand why I'm an Sx/So at all, considering Sp is the most grounded instinct. Though many of the exhibitionistic tendencies within Sx/So still remain, although they tend to bug some people so I've had to mute them. Its said that the instinct merely AMPLIFIES traits of your enneagram, so in this case, my "everyone look at me" is pretty high, along with my lust for intensity, which I often have to ignore altogether because it drives me nuts sometimes.
So, can my responsible, frugal, hard-working do-it-yourself mentality be attributed to socionics IEE? Also, the fact that I'm a 4 but I only feel self-conscious when I'm with a man I'm interested in or occasionally when dealing with work/career stuff, and I am otherwise shameless and 'take it or leave it'? I always assumed my lack of social self-consciousness was SO-blind but I'm willing to reconsider. I also spend an absolutely inordinate amount of time alone. I've never met anyone more independent than I, and that is not boasting - it is actually sad; I'm *hopelessly* independent, to the point of my own demise. For instance I want to ravage a boyfriend every night, but I want the entire day to myself and dont' want to be pinned down to hang out or schedule my dinner.. I just want to do my creative work, take walks in nature by myself, etc. I'm reasonably sociable but I'm also content to go very long periods of time with zero social life. In fact if I'm writing a book or working on a project, I'm happier that way. Let me know if you think this pertains to instincts?