sketcheasy
New member
- Joined
- May 20, 2008
- Messages
- 101
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
If you want to help, just STFU and listen. If you understand how she could be upset, tell her you understand and relate an experience of your own without saying how you overcame it. Wait for her to ask YOU for advice. Then take her out somewhere you think she'll have fun and maybe forget about her troubles, like sushi or ice cream. If you're having problems figuring out what to say because all you want to do is talk about her situation, go do something that doesn't require conversation like a movie or the arcade, or get wasted with some friends and play card games.
G'luck.
i disagree on some points. let her talk it out with you cause she's an ENFP and she'll definitely start going on and on about it until she starts to rationalize it through her monologue. only talk after it appears as if she's exhausted her thoughts and play off it and you'll be surprised as to how easily they begin to solve their own problems. ENFP's are versatile and can handle these situations if they can just get a grip on their emotions. encourage her to think more than to feel. it helps me.