Hera
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- Dec 27, 2010
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 5w6
I thankfully don't have this problem anymore, but I used to have a really big problem in the past because people would look down on me for not being "soft" and "mushy" about love. Friends and family alike would comment on how dry I was, and how "irrationally" I approached love because I considered some traditional values of romanticism irritating and unnecessary. I'm not sure what your definition of romantic is but to me being romantic means being cheesy, and being cheesy means buying teddy bears and candies and flowers for people with a Hallmark card attached with a long heart-felt poem not just once in a while, but WEEKLY or MONTHLY. I never could buy into that.
A long time ago (I was about 15), a guy was interested in me and he actually stopped liking me because I wasn't swept off my feet by his romantic gestures. He even said, "girls like you are the reason nice guys finish last!" blah blah nonsense. I love nice guys, I just don't like the stupid romantic gestures people associate to being nice. You can be nice to me and not buy me a candy-gram. I don't know how to react to it nor do I want to know.
As I said this is no longer an issue for me because I am dating a wonderful ENTP man who somewhat feels the same way I do about it. I like that we can connect mentally, emotionally, and physically without overdosing on the emotions or gestures.
Am I the only one who's a stick in the mud?
A long time ago (I was about 15), a guy was interested in me and he actually stopped liking me because I wasn't swept off my feet by his romantic gestures. He even said, "girls like you are the reason nice guys finish last!" blah blah nonsense. I love nice guys, I just don't like the stupid romantic gestures people associate to being nice. You can be nice to me and not buy me a candy-gram. I don't know how to react to it nor do I want to know.
As I said this is no longer an issue for me because I am dating a wonderful ENTP man who somewhat feels the same way I do about it. I like that we can connect mentally, emotionally, and physically without overdosing on the emotions or gestures.
Am I the only one who's a stick in the mud?