mr.awesome
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So.. ive been studying Buddhism for the past couple months or so. Nothing too intense but i know the basics about it.
Although my studies have obviously taught me that Buddhism is respect and love oriented,
I cannot help but feel discouraged towards having committed relationships?
Maybe im really out of it and have been reading some awful books... but i have just gotten the vibe that although buddha exhibited his loving kindness with no bias or judgement.. His teachings are extremely heavy on having no attachments or desires. [ie a girlfriend, wife, husband, whatever]
a few pieces of Buddhist teachings/writings
although i know Buddhism teaches we need to pry from our senses and worldly matters.. is such attraction between a man and a woman to be ignored and discouraged as evil hedonistic attachments?
[not to be rude either but id like your personal opinions moreso than links to websites ]
Although my studies have obviously taught me that Buddhism is respect and love oriented,
I cannot help but feel discouraged towards having committed relationships?
Maybe im really out of it and have been reading some awful books... but i have just gotten the vibe that although buddha exhibited his loving kindness with no bias or judgement.. His teachings are extremely heavy on having no attachments or desires. [ie a girlfriend, wife, husband, whatever]
a few pieces of Buddhist teachings/writings
If one stays too long with friends
They will soon tire of him;
Living in such closeness leads to dislike and hate.
It is but human to expect and demand too much
When one dwells too long in companionship.
The flaws of cyclic existence: Relatives at home, enemies, friends and possessions in the world are the causes of worry for the body and mind. Only virtuous actions can benefit others. Therefore, I will not be attached to these ties and I will cast them away as I would a snake in my lap
Don't give way to heedlessness
or to intimacy
with sensual delight--
for a heedful person,
absorbed in jhana,
attains an abundance of ease
although i know Buddhism teaches we need to pry from our senses and worldly matters.. is such attraction between a man and a woman to be ignored and discouraged as evil hedonistic attachments?
[not to be rude either but id like your personal opinions moreso than links to websites ]