FrisbeeLad
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- Jan 10, 2008
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- ISTP
This is great, Frisbee, thanks. My ISTP is a fantastic frisbee player, BTW - very athletic in all areas (no surprise, huh?).
So am I...my wife loves watching me play (we play on a competitive coed team together), but alas age has been setting in over the last three years (37) and I'm not as athletic as I once was. And no, that doesn't surprise me that he's very athletic. Is he also good at most things he puts his mind to? Does he win often at most games he plays (board games and the like)?
I have purposely stopped asking him any questions related to "feeling" and only directed at "thinking". It has worked much better!
Yeah...it's tough for us to talk about that. However, the more practice we get the better off we are, so I wouldn't completely cut that type of conversation out with him. Plus...you'll NEED that from your partner (at least from time to time) being an ENFP.
I'm into a lot of metaphysical stuff but do not talk too much about it because he's not. When I do talk about something (like my new job, for example), I can blab for quite awhile but he lets me talk and participates, as well. There are just as many times that he blabs, though, about some project he's working on, for example.
Interestingly, ISTP's can be a bit unconventional in how they approach life, so I could see him enjoying metaphysical stuff, but only in broad-brush strokes. Yeah...the details are very very overrated. The big picture is more interesting generally. My mom and my aunt can, at times, talk in incessant detail and I just pretty much tune them out. My mom I can at least ask her to get on with the story and not be offended, but my aunt. Blah blah blah blah blah. I usually turn talking with her into a game of how I can "steer" her conversations around by asking her unrelated questions about stuff once she gets on a "detailed" roll. Eventually I try to bring her back full-circle to where we once started, but often I try to get someone else involved in the conversation so I can eventually walk away and not feel too bad.
As for the out-of-mind part, that's also been my experience but more as you've described. If we talk more often, things are closer. If not, distance sets in.
Sounds like you almost need to jot down some interesting/funny bullet points about your day, but not too detailed stuff and call him then (when you've got "something" to say). I don't mean that critically or with any ill-will. Just...when you've got more big picture neat, interesting or important stuff to talk about over the phone, until you get to see him again in person.
BTW...I don't know if this applies to all ISTP's, BUT I personally HATE talking on the phone for an extended period of time especially if it's day in day out with the same person...like my mom who calls very very often. It's actually really annoying to me...kinda seems needy which is not what I want to deal with. Hope that may help too.
Does your man play competitive Ultimate with a team back there? If so, men's or coed? I used to play men's here but I'm too old to keep up with the youngsters anymore so...now coed. But...no matter my age...it still feels great to "layout for the disc", especially if it's a defensive block.
Cheers,
FrisbeeLad