Galena
Silver and Lead
- Joined
- Mar 12, 2013
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- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
I appreciate Fe a lot and don't have any great problem with it myself. Occasionally I question if I'm ISFJ.
Although, I seem to bother some of them more than they bother me. Not that I really step on social toes, but more for what I don't do, or what I hold back. Apparently I'm more stingy with information and my feelings than I'm aware that I am, except also more transparent in a "vibe" sort of way. Fi isn't the sole master of being sensitive to inconsistency in others. Often I do things in spite of really strong conflicting emotions because I have a higher priority principle or goal that I'm answering to and just want to get it right so badly - the interpersonal fuckup there is probably that I'm not thinking to communicate said principle clearly verbally or nonverbally and just appear really intense for no great reason, or like I'm hiding the reasons on purpose.
Also, I got caught as kid trying to sneak in little bubbles of privacy where it wasn't really that private, or it was someone else's space or time, where a better understanding of the composition of the space between me and the others would have helped me feel more secure in how and when to meet my own needs and communicate them. Some people are really sensitive to that, and it's a real talent.
Although, I seem to bother some of them more than they bother me. Not that I really step on social toes, but more for what I don't do, or what I hold back. Apparently I'm more stingy with information and my feelings than I'm aware that I am, except also more transparent in a "vibe" sort of way. Fi isn't the sole master of being sensitive to inconsistency in others. Often I do things in spite of really strong conflicting emotions because I have a higher priority principle or goal that I'm answering to and just want to get it right so badly - the interpersonal fuckup there is probably that I'm not thinking to communicate said principle clearly verbally or nonverbally and just appear really intense for no great reason, or like I'm hiding the reasons on purpose.
Also, I got caught as kid trying to sneak in little bubbles of privacy where it wasn't really that private, or it was someone else's space or time, where a better understanding of the composition of the space between me and the others would have helped me feel more secure in how and when to meet my own needs and communicate them. Some people are really sensitive to that, and it's a real talent.