We should also make the subtle difference between the way you want to perceive yourself VS the way you actually are.
Otherwise, If you're counting on people's perception, then you have to know that they don't look at you from the same prism. Everyone looks at you from a prism of his own beliefs, biases, the way they think perceive themselves, the nature of your relationship, and overall, they look at you from the lens of their own reality.
Much like someone who will think of you as arrogant because they lack self-esteem and audacity, have an inferiority complex, and someone else who loves and appreciates life and people, and perceives you as confident, a go-getter... Etc.