[NT] "Your intelligence is quite attractive..."

[Rasofy]

What does a 140+ IQ suggest?

Good education.

 

[The Ü™]

Of course, this doesn't have anything to do with intelligence. Arrogance and pompousness, perhaps (both traits that I'm completely comfortable with), but not intelligence.

 

[Il Morto Che Parla]

Good education.

And/or too much free time

 

[Rasofy]

And/or too much free time

And/or luck. And/or etc.

 

[netzealot]

What does a 140+ IQ suggest?

I think your statement suggests, just like the rest of what others like Rasofy has pointed out, that you are overly subscribed to public evaluation. Have you ever considered that what people think will not make a bit of difference once you step away from your computer?

Also I don't think an IQ of 140 or more suggests what you mean. It doesn't mean a person is special or even especially intelligent, only that they are in a high percentile of the population when it comes to pattern recognition, which is of very little practical value.

 

[Jaguar]

What does a 140 IQ suggest?

 

[The Ü™]

So, if I'm "not intelligent" then (which is ridiculous seeing how I seem to be the only one who thinks about this shit, which makes my thinking very innovative), why did she say my intelligence was attractive? Could it be that what she actually meant that my LACK of intelligence was attractive to cover for her low self-esteem? It can't be because I'm actually unintelligent, because that will bring me back to the said idea of being the only person who thinks about this sort of thing and that, in turn, makes me a misunderstood genius.

 

[Il Morto Che Parla]

So, if I'm "not intelligent" then (which is ridiculous seeing how I seem to be the only one who thinks about this shit, which makes my thinking very innovative), why did she say my intelligence was attractive? Could it be that what she actually meant that my LACK of intelligence was attractive to cover for her low self-esteem? It can't be because I'm actually unintelligent, because that will bring me back to the said idea of being the only person who thinks about this sort of thing and that, in turn, makes me a misunderstood genius.

Well she could be stupid and/or a poor judge, and mistakenly think a person of average intelligence is very intelligent*. Why are you ascribing so much authority to her opinion?

In any case, just be glad and play up to it.



*Hypothetical in all senses.

 

[garbage]

She could've been sarcastic, in which case I'd be hurt and perhaps lash out at her.

She was probably not sarcastic, but there's not much else for me to contribute

Seriously, man, take the compliment. You deserve it.

 

[Coriolis]

So, if I'm "not intelligent" then (which is ridiculous seeing how I seem to be the only one who thinks about this shit, which makes my thinking very innovative), why did she say my intelligence was attractive? Could it be that what she actually meant that my LACK of intelligence was attractive to cover for her low self-esteem? It can't be because I'm actually unintelligent, because that will bring me back to the said idea of being the only person who thinks about this sort of thing and that, in turn, makes me a misunderstood genius.

Uniqueness is not the same as innovation. Any conspiracy theorist can claim to be the only one thinking his thoughts. You may be highly intelligent, but neither your posts on this thread, nor an IQ test score, nor the casual remark of some girl we know nothing about proves that. Moreover, you don't need to prove your intelligence to us, or to her. Only you can gauge whether she was flattering, joking, exaggerating, or being genuine, since only you were there.

What I can say is that if you get this wrapped around the axle over every little comment offered in similar circumstances, you will have no energy left to assess the situation rationally, much less to enjoy yourself.

 

[the state i am in]

you can take it as a move, a categorical meaning you are placed into, or a window into the other person. if you don't figure out what it means for the other person, you're stuck simply seeing it as one of the first two. there's no real grounding in that. you either feel manipulated or judged. and you eat it up or you spit it out.

 

[Stanton Moore]

Take the kind words at face value. One girl said to me 'I thought you were pretty plain, then you started talking.' We had a relationship for about 18 months. It was fun. She valued my mind. I ran with it. The finishline remained the same.

 

[The Ü™]

Take the kind words at face value. One girl said to me 'I thought you were pretty plain, then you started talking.' We had a relationship for about 18 months. It was fun. She valued my mind. I ran with it. The finishline remained the same.

Personally, I would've been insulted.

 

[Scheherezade]

i`m curious ..is she still talking to you after this thread?

 

[The Ü™]

i`m curious ..is she still talking to you after this thread?

Actually, if you refer to this post, you'll see the conversation in its entirety. I think it was a few weeks ago, don't really remember much of what went down because it was like talking to the wall.

And no, it didn't happen at this forum if that's what you're implying.

 

[Josie]

I feel highly complimented when someone flatters my intelligence rather than my physical appearance.

 

[The Ü™]

I feel highly complimented when someone flatters my intelligence rather than my physical appearance.

But seeing how she said my intelligence was attractive was so offensive that I promoted her from Captain to Corporal Obvious.

 

[skylights]

If someone says they like something, that doesn't indicate they don't like, or notice, something else. It just means they chose to comment on that one thing for any given reason. More than likely, she thought it would be a socially-appropriate, flattering, and agreeable way to engage with you.

Response would be "thank you", and preferably a compliment on her qualities in return, or at least segue into pleasant conversation focused on her.

What the heck is OCM?

 

[kyli_ryan]

Why isn't this one of the best compliments? I think that it's the greatest thing a person can say about you!

 

[The Ü™]

What the heck is OCM?

Well, I'm glad you asked! It is an acronym for Open Casket Materialâ„¢. I am hoping that this new expression will replace calling someone "hot" because that is so 20th century. It pretty much means the same thing, though. But please, spread the usage of the phrase! It could be my life's work!!! A small seed could plant the biggest of trees.