tangledupinlines
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First of all: sorry to bring this subect on and vent my problems to you.
Hey, I'm new here. I've been through this situation and I can't understand what really happened. So I'm asking, please, someone help me.
I've met an ENFP on Tinder and we really connected on our first date. I went home with him and we couldn't even stop talking to each other to do other things (you know..). Just a few days after he said he liked me and talked about how it had been a long time since he felt something like this for someone. He made plans, we hang out on my birthday and he took me to see this place he loves going to, across our town. He said he was falling in love. We were seeing each other for a month or so, and he was still on Tinder. So, last week I said how much I liked him (mostly because he made me feel comfortable enough to open up after saying he was falling) and he said he liked me, but didn't want anything serious. So I said it would be better if we stopped seeing each other. Let me explain: I would keep falling in love with him and he would keep searching for other girls. I feel like I can't "kind of" like someone. If I'm into someone, I really am. I couldn't keep seeing him and pretend like "ok, so probably I should search for other guys too" because I would (even if unconsciously) be devoted to him. I would keep hurting myself, you know? Expecting things to be different. I think that if you like someone (how he said he liked me) you don't treat them like an option. I mean, it's ok wanting to be the only one for him, right? But he said it was ok, that it was my call if I wanted to walk away.
So yeah, I'm just sad because he said things to me but his actions are just the opposite. He let me go. It's been a week. We don't talk anymore. End.
It's been a long time since I've opened up and let someone in... And now I feel insignificant, like he was just trying to make me fall for him. But then I think about how he said all those things looking me in the eyes, and the way he looked me in the eyes, and how he said he liked me so much and the way he talked about the gift he would give me for my graduation.. I feel deep down that he couldn't be lying. It's driving me crazy. I'm moving on and taking care of myself, I'm painting, writing, exercising, loving myself... But I just can't understand this. I keep thinking if he misses me. I hope you understand my actions though. I'm sorry about the subject.
Hey, I'm new here. I've been through this situation and I can't understand what really happened. So I'm asking, please, someone help me.
I've met an ENFP on Tinder and we really connected on our first date. I went home with him and we couldn't even stop talking to each other to do other things (you know..). Just a few days after he said he liked me and talked about how it had been a long time since he felt something like this for someone. He made plans, we hang out on my birthday and he took me to see this place he loves going to, across our town. He said he was falling in love. We were seeing each other for a month or so, and he was still on Tinder. So, last week I said how much I liked him (mostly because he made me feel comfortable enough to open up after saying he was falling) and he said he liked me, but didn't want anything serious. So I said it would be better if we stopped seeing each other. Let me explain: I would keep falling in love with him and he would keep searching for other girls. I feel like I can't "kind of" like someone. If I'm into someone, I really am. I couldn't keep seeing him and pretend like "ok, so probably I should search for other guys too" because I would (even if unconsciously) be devoted to him. I would keep hurting myself, you know? Expecting things to be different. I think that if you like someone (how he said he liked me) you don't treat them like an option. I mean, it's ok wanting to be the only one for him, right? But he said it was ok, that it was my call if I wanted to walk away.
So yeah, I'm just sad because he said things to me but his actions are just the opposite. He let me go. It's been a week. We don't talk anymore. End.
It's been a long time since I've opened up and let someone in... And now I feel insignificant, like he was just trying to make me fall for him. But then I think about how he said all those things looking me in the eyes, and the way he looked me in the eyes, and how he said he liked me so much and the way he talked about the gift he would give me for my graduation.. I feel deep down that he couldn't be lying. It's driving me crazy. I'm moving on and taking care of myself, I'm painting, writing, exercising, loving myself... But I just can't understand this. I keep thinking if he misses me. I hope you understand my actions though. I'm sorry about the subject.