INTP
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no offense to any ENFJ's, ... but I don't want to be them.
this is the most hurtful thing you can say to anyone
no offense to any ENFJ's, ... but I don't want to be them.
this is the most hurtful thing you can say to anyone
lets see INFPs are sterotyped as winey no backboned weiners who do not know how to use logic and cry at the slightest insult. Yeah........
Which is weird because in each encounter with people I've typed as INFP, they have been surprisingly outspoken and unapologetic about their voices. I still wonder why that stereotype is going strong.
Oh, but you ENFJs are uber-mesmerizing... I kinda just love listening to you...I don't think this is the sort of forum where people say 'be what you want to be', but rather the sort of forum where you will receive advice on how to get as close as possible to your desires. It's something I really enjoy about this slice of the interwebs.
Anyway. I thought I'd like to be like more of an ENFP for a while, but I've grown to accept myself. Truth is, I would miss the traits I have. I can embrace them, while working on the traits I might envy. They will be through the veil of an ENFJ, but I like that veil. It's more interesting that way.
A lot of people have trouble accepting the positive traits they do have or seeing the negative traits what they desire to be comes with. There are two sides to everything, but people like to focus on negativity that they have in their grasp and reject potential negativity while they spectate.
In the psychological sense, a lot of people have deep-rooted issues with self-acceptance. It's not necessarily a desire to be something else, but the inability to accept themselves. You can see this in multiple facets of life. It's in a majority of minds to see the negative traits in themselves, even ones that might not be there in reality, and to envy those around them for what traits they are thought to have. Think body image issues of people who are in perfectly fine shape- so many of them will find something to envy, despite their current state. People get delusional very quickly. People also acquire a sense of hopelessness, or think that if they lack something that it cannot be obtained. The thing about it is.. it can.. it may just take some effort, rather than being placed in their lap. This could stem into the issues behind not wanting to make the effort.. buuut I have an english paper to write
It's the Fe :brushes shouldahs off:.Oh, but you ENFJs are uber-mesmerizing... I kinda just love listening to you...
Balance, good sir. No matter what side of the spectrum you're on- strive for the middle-ground. It makes learning, reflecting, and communicating so much easier.
But some focus too much on all their positive aspects (like me) and avoid thinking about their negative ones...
I'd joke about the issue but it's become a serious one between my girlfriend and I. I'm just taking the truth like a man and doing something about it.
Aren't we the type we wanna be?