I find an opposite correlation, if I find any correlation at all.I'm curious if you grew up in an environment where your aggressiveness would have been allowed or encouraged or if you have generally been in a position of security (physically, socially, economically).
I find an opposite correlation, if I find any correlation at all.
Aggression comes from feeling a lack of power and therefore securing/defending it, no?
Also, I was raised privileged and I was raised with uber-privileged peers.
Aggression was never viewed as a positive thing in my "world".
And, it was rarely, if ever, exhibited.
Being intellectually curious, cautious, and inquisitive were salient tenets taught and displayed by the kids I grew up with.
So, from my, perhaps myopic, point of view, aggression has little to do with privilege. :/
Perhaps I'm a bit of an individualist, but I don't think the people who I grew up with exhibit this same trait...
I am considered the abrasive asshole amongst my groups of friends (from childhood friends, to college friends, to post-college friends).
So you've met my sister.Yes, but there's another potential reason; a learned sense of entitlement, and concomitant lack of consequence for aggressive actions. The person who acts like this has never really learned to modulate aggressive impulses, because there is little need to when they have not been chastised, and have always got what they want by behaving in this way.
I honestly think this is a cultural thing more than anything, and there's more than one subculture of privilege. Are you talking about people whose parents were high achievers who valued education, intellectual development, and perhaps the work ethic, etc? Or those whose privilege came from inherited money and high social status in their communities?
He and I were raised differently.Perhaps I'm a bit of an individualist, but I don't think the people who I grew up with exhibit this same trait...
(although fiery, tooth-and-nail, grind-it-out, no-holds-barred debate was a significant feature of my childhood friends' and my playtime.)
(I was raised in the G.A.T.E. [Gifted and Talented Education] program in the California Public School System.)
(There was always an air of proving your intelligence over others, particularly among the boys.)
I am considered the abrasive asshole amongst my groups of friends (from childhood friends, to college friends, to post-college friends).
Seems like you still HAVE groups of friends, however... so your abrasiveness must not be enough to alienate them completely! Or is it only some who are bothered by it?
I was private schooled and was primarily surrounded by Jewish liberal, intellectuals.
He and I were raised differently.
I was private schooled and was primarily surrounded by Jewish liberal, intellectuals.
I was in Speech and Debate, I was the president of my high school's JSA chapter, and I won the SoCal regional award/gavel for best speaker in my non-impromptu debate.
The debate I love is one that reveals a better understanding to all parties involved, no personal attacks, just thoughts spoken, and points negated when they are in fact false and can be proven so.
But, I only debate when I believe in what I am debating, I will always concede when I learn that I was wrong in a previously held belief.
And, I cannot STAND those who debate with the intention to WIN.
We engage in discourse and debate to LEARN, and GROW, not win.
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(I was raised in the G.A.T.E. [Gifted and Talented Education] program in the California Public School System.)
(There was always an air of proving your intelligence over others, particularly among the boys.)
But I am considered the abrasive asshole amongst my groups of friends (from childhood friends, to college friends, to post-college friends).
A likeable asshole, kinda reminds me of a lickable one...I have a large and diverse group of friends, many of whom I've known most of my life...
Most people accept it as part of the package.
Most people don't deny that I tend to be right - they just think I'm an asshole.
Albeit a likeable one, for the most part... (a la Walter Sobchak)
My father was a Libertarian giant douchebag, but other than him, I was surrounded, more or less, by wonderful people.In other words, she was surrounded by giant douchebags.
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Why is this thread still active?
I already voted. Case closed.
K my real vote, rather than silly posts:
ENTJ, close on the E / I, close on the S / N.
That does actually make a LOT of sense. Intelletctual competitiveness sounds like it was the social norm (as one would expect in such a situation really).Perhaps I'm a bit of an individualist, but I don't think the people who I grew up with exhibit this same trait...
(although fiery, tooth-and-nail, grind-it-out, no-holds-barred debate was a significant feature of my childhood friends' and my playtime.)
(I was raised in the G.A.T.E. [Gifted and Talented Education] program in the California Public School System.)
(There was always an air of proving your intelligence over others, particularly among the boys.)
He and I were raised differently.
I was private schooled and was primarily surrounded by Jewish liberal, intellectuals.