Vilku
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- Joined
- Jan 4, 2012
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
it seems to be attributed to fe/te slice where fe's overly care of how others perceive them and te's not much.
but im not here to talk of such ordinary way of viewing it:
rather, specificly in your way of seeing it.
ive noticed ive came to the extense of carelessness where one female even talked of me as being selfish, in a very negative tone with others pretty much just listening without objections, and at no point had a single feeling occured to me, apart from interest.
all i could think was "interesting, it appears shes using this kind of trick to revenge me for not being empathically interested in her feelings." (and the reason why i wasnt interested, was, cause i know .. TOO MANY isfp's, and having yet another, just kind of depressed knowing exactly how flatly shes _always_ in the same emotional state <.< or appears to be at least.
she had previously once shown a significant amount of anger for same reason too.
hm.. do you think i somehow should be interested in their thoughts? does it feel very warm and welcoming thinking i dont even care yet im posting this thread?
do you think empathy works one way? that, one person has the role of empath while other person leads the feelings?
i sometimes have periods when i completely change my role, as in my empath role i constantly have headaches due others feelings bad, while in sympathy mode i know of other peoples feelings without actually feeling them, and being in emotional lead myself.
does the mode change for you?
oh and i do care, but my care is rather mystic and hard to track. i guess i need that magical spice of imagination.
but im not here to talk of such ordinary way of viewing it:
rather, specificly in your way of seeing it.
ive noticed ive came to the extense of carelessness where one female even talked of me as being selfish, in a very negative tone with others pretty much just listening without objections, and at no point had a single feeling occured to me, apart from interest.
all i could think was "interesting, it appears shes using this kind of trick to revenge me for not being empathically interested in her feelings." (and the reason why i wasnt interested, was, cause i know .. TOO MANY isfp's, and having yet another, just kind of depressed knowing exactly how flatly shes _always_ in the same emotional state <.< or appears to be at least.
she had previously once shown a significant amount of anger for same reason too.
hm.. do you think i somehow should be interested in their thoughts? does it feel very warm and welcoming thinking i dont even care yet im posting this thread?
do you think empathy works one way? that, one person has the role of empath while other person leads the feelings?
i sometimes have periods when i completely change my role, as in my empath role i constantly have headaches due others feelings bad, while in sympathy mode i know of other peoples feelings without actually feeling them, and being in emotional lead myself.
does the mode change for you?
oh and i do care, but my care is rather mystic and hard to track. i guess i need that magical spice of imagination.