See folks, this is why I have a very tough time mapping out my variants. It's like I don't have blind spot, but there are areas of my life that I could give less of a shit about.
ISTP 5w6 3w4 8w9 SO/SP.
My blindspot is SX.
It manifests in the fact that I avoid intimacy like the plague. I have never had an intimate relationship. I also tend to see SX-first energy as reckless and overwhelming. The idea of "merging" makes me extremely uncomfortable. I definitely put a reign on my more unruly passions. [MENTION=17911]Maybe[/MENTION], your signature quote is quintessentially SX-dom, while one philosophy I live by ("everything in moderation") is quintessentially SX-last.
However, I resent some descriptions that say SX-last lacks passion. I don't think the SX-last types lack passion; they just have a different sort of passion, a different focus. It's true that I do not have the charisma of an SX-dom or sec type. However, I am by no means a boring person, nor have I ever viewed myself as such, although I can see how SP/SOs and SO/SPs could think that. I often jokingly say that I have a very boring life. A favorite saying of mine is "same shit, different day." But, I have a rich mental life of ideas and experiences. I can be very charming, when I set my mind to it. But I'm still very detached, and people who want to bear their souls to people they just met is a foreign concept to me.
All the people on typewatch (a very well known enneagram site) saw me as Sx last. However, I keep reading things like this I NEVER can relate to them. I love intimacy. In fact, I am almost an intimacy junkie. I absolutely love to be close to a lover and fall in love VERY easily. I get close to people VERY quickly and I can literally meet someone in one day and feel like I have known them my whole life.
The first time I ever fell hard for a woman, I simply met the woman online. I then got her phone number and we used to chat every night for hours on end. I chatted with her for 5 hours every single night of the week. I even lost sleep a lot of times because I was staying up so late and talking with her. It was like she was the only thing that meant anything to me. The lack of sleep that I was getting even effected my work performance and I just didn't care because I just felt so happy whenever I would hear her wonderful voice. Eventually we broke it off, but I still remember her to this day.
Also, keep in mind that this was just an online thing, when I meet a girl in real life and date her, I'm even more of a clingy bastard.
my blindspot is SP, and i recently made a post to someone who thought i was sx/sp which answers this pretty well:
See now this doesn't register with me either. How can you take on entrepreneurial endeavors without making sure that you have sufficient capital to do so? Also, how can you be ready to marry a woman without being afraid that it will effect you financially?
One thing that I consistently struggle with is that I fall in love easy but am terrified of marriage because I am always afraid that I will marry the woman and that we may get divorced and then she may take half of my hard earned money. Not just that but in relationships I am very careful with sex as well. I love having sex with a girl and feeling close to that woman through the act, but I'm constantly afraid that the condoms will slip and that I'll accidentally get the girl pregnant and be stuck taking care of a kid that will take money out of my pocket. I may one day want to have children, but not right now. I'm just not financially fit enough to take care of a child.
Also you tend to view entrepreneurial endeavors just like my old ESxP 7w8 sx/so manager did. He just completely ignores that fact that he could go belly up and be flat broke and homeless. The fear of being homeless constantly plagues me. Also back when I was in sales, I generally went to work completely terrified everyday. I mean, according to my manager I was an awesome salesman, and I would consistently hit my sales goals. However, many days I had to come to work drunk or high because I was so worried about failing to meet my sales goals and being out on the street homeless, that the fear overwhelmed me.
One more thing. I ALWAYS like to have a financial safety net. The more money I have in reserves, the better.
INFP 9w1 (952?) so/sx
I haven't invested much time in laying tangible foundations for my future. I say tangible because I do devote time to thinking about what choices might be best for me, but I haven't been vigilant in getting good grades, seeking out opportunities, or developing certain skills. I just expect that everything will pan out. (This could have something to do with having at least 2 positive outlook types in my tritype, too.)
I don't take very good care of myself, especially physically. I often forget to eat and take medicine. I never exercise - I'm lazy and thin and don't *have* to for vanities' sake. I'm sure that I would feel better if I did, but I usually don't see that as a priority. Then there's the fact that I spent five years depressed without telling anyone or doing much about it at all, expecting that it would resolve itself.
I can't relate to this either. I try to take VERY good care of myself and often FREAK OUT over health problems. Also, I am constantly trying to invest in my future. I have an awesome GPA in college and picked a major that will be very financially feasible in the future.
Some good examples of my lack of sp:
- Response to my allergist when he asked me if I felt any different after two years of allergy shots: Emphatic Shrug
- Not having a good instinctive understanding of my physical needs. Dialogue between me and sp-using friends: "Ugh, I just feel so drained and burned out..." "Go to bed!" "But I don't feel sleepy..." "You are. Go to bed."
- Setting aside personal needs in order to get stuff done, and then regretting it later. (See above. I tend to burn myself out.)
- Seeing caretaking in emotional terms, more than physical terms; being there for someone mentally, but not thinking to offer them things in the physical realm, to help them out.
^ This too. I tend to instinctively say "yes" to people whenever they offer things/experiences/invitations, and then realize all too late that I
might be overburdened. I also have a very "It'll all be fine!!" attitude about things, that's often misguided, and notorious among my friends. (I blame the 7 fix for this, too.
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(Note: My sp is probably still a lot stronger than that of many sp-lasts on the forum, [MENTION=15963]Aleda[/MENTION] included, because I'm an SJ and therefore fairly sp-focused by nature. But the thing is, when I do focus on my own physical/mental needs, it's usually as a means to an end, and not as a goal in itself. Something I focus on when it feels necessary -- and ONLY when it feels necessary -- because, as mentioned above, I do tend to undervalue sp foci.)
Yeah I don't relate to this either. I'm very in touch with my physical needs.
So blindspot
- networking makes me very uncomfortable, I have no idea how to do it and it makes me feel queasy
- I am oblivious to my position within the structure of an organization
- I have trouble keeping up to date with things/people. people frequent ask me "where have you been?" or "what planet are you from?"
something that's helped me get somewhat in touch with my blindspot (or at least become aware of it in the external world more) is, oddly enough, watching history documentaries. it's taught me a few tricks for navigating group structures, how to see the impact of how an action will effect different groups of people and how people acting in a unified group can accomplish a task far more quickly and efficiently than a single person.
Once again, I don't relate. I am pretty damn good at social networking, and am very aware of how social contacts can help me or hurt me. However, I don't tend to "work the room" like an So dom that's an extravert (not that all So doms are extraverted). I tend to stay on the sidelines and build one social contact at a time, one-on-one and then utilize those social contacts when I need to. My idea of social networking is like a spider in a web: I trap the one person in my web and work with them one-on-one and build report with them, and then utilize them when I need to. I'm not good at working a room though.
