[MENTION=20474]OptoGypsy[/MENTION]
...I will give a specific recent example that I attribute to a conflict about Fe because that would make more sense than just using these letters
And maybe it's not Fe anyway.
I was reading the blog of someone who I know. She went for some long hiking race thingie in the woods/hills and described the event&experience in her blog. I start reading it, in it she mentions that there was a 200-people limit to the race and you had to sign up in advance and quite some people didn't show up on race day and her opinion was this: "unfortunately many people didn't show up... it's on their own conscience*, but they really screwed up things for the organizers of the race". (*: sorry hard to translate the expression, it wasn't in English. Literal translation otherwise.)
I immediatelly called her out on this, I said the race organizers will or should have planned for this circumstance and not be surprised by it, e.g. by allowing a certain extra amount of people to sign up based on previous experience. (I had more thoughts and strong emotions about it but I chose only to use this reasoning.)
She replied to this by explaining how the race organizers were forced to set the limit to 200 by authority and they (race organizers) were having problems with left over food and race labels and whatnot because some people didn't show up and of course other people who would've liked to participate couldn't come because the places were taken by those people.
I replied by saying that such trouble is just part of race organizing and so it's plain unnecessary to blame people for not showing up... (This way of putting it was a bit closer to my strong emotions originally
. I also thought to myself but didn't say it out loud that it's really Just SOOO Silly to expect people to show up no matter what happens, just so the race organizers feel better!!!?? It didn't make a lot of sense honestly that she'd actually expect this, tbh. It just made no sense overall, that sentence in the blog.)
She ended up replying that she just thought that people should in advance let the organizers know that they can't show up. And she also said that she put the sentence in because if just one person will behave differently in future it was already worth it.
My final reply to that: I suggested to her that she should've put that reasoning in her blog post instead of the original sentence. (Still left unsaid: my strong emotionality about: wtf, why try to make people feel guilty for other people's welfare for no reason, and wtf, why not write the actual sensible reasoning instead? Yeah, the one I finally managed to pull out of her was sensible, about asking people to let the organizers know in advance.)
(...I got a passive-aggressive remark from her instead of a direct reply, to that. She didn't fix the blog sentence either.)
...End of episode.
...Well analyse away if you can
I have had quite a few conflicts with her over similar reasonings of hers before.