I try to figure out my own children. I have some clues under which I don't necessarily know what do they mean. I would be happy if somebody could help.
I don't necessarily want the perfect answer about their type but rather some clues so I could know to what direction to look to with them.
To which function / type / dichotomy would the following things belong to?
#1 Asking for things directly (Give me milk!)<-> asking things by not saying what is wanted but instead going around the thing (example: I might possibly like to have something white and cold to drink)
#2 Being very tidy, very detail oriented <-> forgetting things being a messy
#3 Remembering rules and making sure that everybody else remembers them <-> doensn't want to lead anybody, is interested in own things only
#5 very imaginative, mostly in own world
#6 very stubborn, very single headed, very much fixation to a thing that wants to be done, resistent to change
#7 very stubborn, wants to do things their way but doesn't want to lead others or give others orders
#9 doesn't have a need to please but can be very affectionate towards only few people
I'm more of a functional person, so I'm going to answer in the way I know. haha.
1. This is an interaction style. I think they describe them on
www.bestfitype.com. The former is more of a Chart the Course or In Charge style and the latter is more of a Behind the Scenes or Get Things Going style. This'll help you limit your research down to 8 types instead of 16.
2. The messy & tidy is tough because I'm a J who's fairly messy. I read somewhere that NJ's are messier than SJ's, but I'm not sure on the reliability of that statement. However, details are in the realm of Si - so if it's a detail oriented tidy, you may want to look at types that have Si somewhere somewhat high on the functions list. I'm tidy only when someone else is going to see my living space so that they do not feel uncomfortable in a mess, so that's more of a Fe thing.
3. The former seems very Si to me and the latter seems to be somewhat of an introvert thing - maybe even a sign of a Behind the Scenes interaction style. I actually don't prefer to lead, but because of my Chart the Course interaction style, I tend to do it anyway. I'm very bossy.
5. Seems to be an N sort of thing
6. & 7. (I lumped them together because after writing the paragraph, I realized I addressed both of them!)
Ehh, this one's tough. Traditonally, the single headed fixation would be an ISJ thing. However, NJ's have a stubborn streak too & I'm not resistant to change, but I'm resistant to change that I cannot control. So if I cause the change, I'm fine with it. If I don't, I'll pitch more of a fit. I've also found that NP's can quite possibly be the most stubborn people alive if their values/principles are threatened. Not wanting to lead or give orders is again what seems to be a sign of the Behind the Scenes style - which leaves you with ISFJ, INTP, INFP, and ISFP. All four of those types seem to have that immovable stubborn part & wants to do things their way but don't have much desire to lead. As an INFJ, this drives me up a wall.
9. This could be a Fi type or a T type. Most likely not a Fe dominant or auxillary, as we tend to have the need to please. It's also probably a sign of introversion, especially if we're dealing with a feeling type.
