Z Buck McFate
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The urban/rural divide seems larger than ever, and we’re going to have to figure out as a country how to work together and appreciate each other’s differences. We are a divided nation, but there is potential for reconciliation.
This isn't directed at Jonny specifically, I'm just bouncing off this part of his post to air a grievance/concern.
I think people on the left need to modify their conception of "living together" to adapt to the best the right seems capable of doing such. We keep trying to apply a standard of "living together" that we'd find agreeable, and it's been egregiously taken advantage of. To borrow Tokenkindly's expression, we keep bringing casseroles to a knife fight.
There's an old Steve Martin joke coming to mind: "There's one thing I find completely unacceptable in marriage, and that's if she catches me with another woman. I absolutely won't tolerate it." The joke, of course, is that he's saying he won't tolerate being called on something by a partner that a partner should never have to tolerate in the first place. 'If you point out I'm doing this thing that you should rightly end our relationship over, I will end this relationship!" If said by someone who is actually conscientious and just being playful, in good faith, it can be funny because it points out the madness in simply being human and how overwhelming emotional charge can turn us into morons (both on the abusive end and the co-dependent end - human connection is a need that a great many people with endure abuse to maintain). But the thing is, it's uncanny how close it is to the abusive language that actually gets used. It's a hyperbolic example of that controlling language, and it's Trump primary vernacular. It's not TDS. People keep trying to point out how the orange man is bad because the orange man is really fucking bad.
My primary question (again, directed more at the ether of the internet than any single person), how do we learn to "get along" with people who dismiss absolutely every single attempt at pointing out how wildly bullying, divisive, manipulative, duplicitious, and solidly malignantly narcissistic Trump is as being - without any exception, every single time - merely confirmation bias on behalf of the person issuing the feedback? Trump truly is like that "you did a very bad thing" kid from the Twilight Zone, and even the clearest examples - that it seems like any sane person should be able to cede to - gets met with the same old bizarre "wow, you have a full blown case of TDS." How the fuck do you reason with that? How are we supposed to try to work together when every attempt to point out something that is absolutely unacceptable somehow invariably magically cements the notion that the opposite is true? No matter how directly observable his malignant narcissism is?
I feel like I'm not articulating this well, but I've gotta jet. Maybe I'll have a chance to iron it out later.