Oh I won't wait around for it..but it's essential to get me to trust you again. I can be friendly without though, but that's got it's limits
If someone hasn't learned from their mistakes by realizing they made one in the first place and fessing up to it, showing that they realize it was wrong.... I mean, what's a confession without remorse? It's the acknowledgement that they did something. That doesn't mean that they acknowledge that action to be therefore also somethign that should not be repeated because it caused harm to someone. Some people may confess something, promising never to do it again, without actually showing remorse. That's fine, but without that acceptance of guilt, it means they're more likely to do it again, as they did not see it as something to be avoid, just something they agreed would not do around the other person again. And that's fine, I have several 'agreements' like this, where someone pointed out that my behavior bothers them. I'll try to work around it, make sure it doesn't bother them agian, but I'll refuse to share their belief that what I did was 'wrong'.
When that is the case with another person, and I'm the one offended, I tend to try and understand where they come from, why they don't see it as a mistake and work around it. But I won't trust them again around that issue. Though I may very well do so on other matters
How does it work for ISTPs then?