Z Buck McFate
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I think this is accurate. Nothing can puncture the bubble. Anything critical is fake news, plus many never acknowledge watching or hearing news at all. No faults, never made a mistake, not responsible for anything. And anyone who's ever dealt with this kind of narcissism can certainly identify it instantly.
And just like when dealing with this kind of narcissism in one's own life, actively trying to puncture the bubble is precisely what makes it stronger - they've had a lifetime of practice in spinning anything intended to puncture the bubble into something to use to their advantage. The only way to get rid of a narcissist irl is to ignore everything that can be ignored, and to address that which must be addressed (e.g. laying down boundaries) as matter-of-factly as possible - with clear consequences, so that nothing they do will incite fighting or rage, only unwanted consequences for themselves. The only thing they find unbearable is not being worth any attention at all, and if they can't get a rise out of you then they leave you alone (because feeling invisible/absolutely unimportant is so unbearable that they start to just not actually even see you).
Every book I've read on narcissism suggests this, as a way to fall of a narcissist's radar. What's frustrating is that there's no way to apply that here.
eta: But anyway, the way that media personalities and whatnot try to puncture the bubble only makes it stronger.