Now I feel doubly motivated to get shredded before I hit 40.
All I can say is that weight bearing exercise as you age can't be stressed enough. It's going to prevent so much that just goes so wrong when you get older. Seriously, I thought my Achilles was ready to go coming down the stairs the other day.
[snipped...] I think you can definitely make changes and get started on a different path in your 30s. I suppose I finally started to realize on some level I needed to change things at age 29, so I guess that counts as my twenties, but I didn't take concrete steps until my 30s. [...snipped]
Noted. Achillesâ€™ tendon rupture is wonderful bedtime imagery.
Also, I hope thereâ€™s something docs can do to alleviate the acute pain for youâ€” that sounds miserable.
Thanks but I have no issue with it, other than what's in my own mind. I was coming down the stairs and I was like - why is my calf and Achilles area so tight? Then I thought - what would happen if that thing snapped right now? Seriously, that kind of shit goes through your mind when you get older lol, even when there is no reason for it. I spent time being less than healthy in my 20's and 30's so I suppose I sometimes overcompensate now with exercise and a mostly healthy diet, less meat and more fruit and veg.
I did solve the issue by having a massage.
^^^This. I spent my late teens and twenties dropping out of high school, doing two tours in the Marines, and then dropping in and out of college. I travelled around the world, got a bit of a drinking problem, ended up in jail a few times, etc. Finally at the age of 32 I decided the world was passing me by (it was the go-go 80s and all my old high school buddies were making good money selling computers or dabbling in real estate or whatever), so I returned to college and finished off my degree and got on a career track.
As JVDB says, I didn't count my twenties as wasted. In retrospect many friends and family say I was the smart one, taking that 15 years (from age 17 to 32) to go a little wild and not getting on the college/family/career track right out of high school. For my own part, I learned that you can take some chances, fail a few times, and still come out all right in the end.
On the other hand, it seemed that the TED Talk in the OP focused a lot on women and women's issues. (The only time the speaker specifically mentioned men, they seemed to be playing the role of douchebag boyfriend.) And women do have the additional factor of fertility windows and child-rearing to consider. So I don't discount what the speaker has to say to women in particular. If women want to "have it all" and enjoy both a big family and a fulfilling career, then it's possible that they may need to be a little more deliberate in terms of planning ahead and getting more out of that first decade of adulthood.
You make some good points. For my own life, I'm in the process of redefining it for the fourth time. I've changed careers and marriages, etc. In a way I'm childlike, but I was very responsible teenager and young adult, so my life falling apart now has nothing to do with not caring about my choices then. I used to be too serious, too conscientious if anything. I look back on my life and feel I made the best choices available to me at the time, so I don't actually have regrets, but also recognize that life is constantly fluid and change is continual. I think that is not particularly unusual. For me my current decade is my new 20's. I'll likely say it again when I'm in my 80's. I plan to go back to school when I'm very old to study astrophysics and I'm going to play jazz organ. I might even have a cute boyfriend. I'm going to be hilarious.First of all, it's incredibly unprofessional for her, as a psychotherapist, to give her own opinion on someone's love life in the way she implied. Her job is to help her client grow and figure out what she wants.
Second, this is all so broadly so-instinct based that it makes me recoil. "Eighty percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35." The first two things she mentions after this are just meaningless statistics. Why the hell should I care what most people do? If they all had babies in high school, that wouldn't mean it's a good idea to do it. When they start getting married in their 30s, that doesn't mean I have to get married then, too. Maybe she should bring up the idea that people are not sheep. The biological facts, are of course, facts that are important. But they do not set people's life in stone, unless you have babies when you don't plan to and raise them.
Third, the idea that you can't develop as an adult after your twenties is absurd.
It's only the defining decade if you MAKE it so. If you allow it to be so.
She can't even pronounce Leonard Bernstein correctly. She irritates me. She just wants to be famous, in my opinion.
The idea that you are deciding your life right now, that's great. But it sure as hell is NOT limited to one decade of one's life. Otherwise, I guess I should just kill myself now because there would be absolutely no point in continuing.