Amargith
Hotel California
- Joined
- Nov 5, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 4dw
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
I did not understand this test
nor did I understand the results from the test
it lacked in explanations and that was rather disturbing
Self compassion is the ability to be kind and understanding to yourself when your hurting, the way you would be with a friend, instead of critical and impatient at your flaws.
Self-kindness is the ability to be kind to yourself when you've failed, without nailing yourself to the wall for it.
Mindfulness is how aware you are that youre human and therefore make mistakesand how aware you are that you judge yourself for them.
Common humanity means (i think) how much you realise youre just like everybosy else and that failure doesnt mean youre despicable or worthless, but in fact human and therefore well within the norm of normal failure (people feel an all encompassing shame if they think that theyre not capable of the same things others are coz they then consider themselves a useless , worthless burden on society)
These three are scored normally; the higher you score on them, the more they contribute to your current level of self compassion.
Self-judgement is also known as the Inner Judge or Critic and corresponds to that voice in your head that for those with low self compassion sets impossibly high standards and yells non stop that youre worthless. Typically it has internalised those standards from prominent authority figures from your childhood and holds *their*values high, which are not necessarily yours, which in turn is the source of internal conflict leading to stress, anxiety, aggression and rebellion.
If properly aligned otoh, it becomes a tool to warn you for danger and an compass for your drive in life.
Isolation indicates how alone on the world a person feels when they fail. Isolation tens to correlate with depression, shame,public humiliation and so on as the person will retreat when they fail sted of seeking out the support of familiy and friends, which is an essential selfcare tool for their healing process. Instead, they deny themselves that vital support often out of fear of being judged due to their own belief that their failurz was unacceptable which in turn indicates low self-compassion
Over-identification is the fuzzy one for me, but i guess it goes back to being too invested and too focused on what those failures say about you as a person. Iow, those failures now become a core part of your personality, making you a broken individual who deserves to be punished and worse, who cannot be fixed as it is who you are, or so you believe. In essence, they are exhibit A and B in your trial for the crime of being a useless, untrustworthy human being instead of simple mistakes that you can learn so much from.
They can indeed help shape you and your personal growth through the wisdom they carry, not through punishing you for eternity. *
The scores of the latter three are reverse coded, meaning that a lower score indicates a higher level of self compassion
* dramatic license taken in the descriptions above to drive home the point.
