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Pretending to be something or someone you are not does take its toll. I have read about her study - very insightful. Sad for her to end this way.
It wasn't the pretending that did the damage it was the experience of living as a man.Pretending to be something or someone you are not does take its toll. I have read about her study - very insightful. Sad for her to end this way.
They are not inseparable. For someone who does not identify as male that "experience of living as a man" is pretending to be something you are not. For someone who does, it can be lifesaving.It wasn't the pretending that did the damage it was the experience of living as a man.
Of course not but which one of those two things played more of a roll?They are not inseparable. For someone who does not identify as male that "experience of living as a man" is pretending to be something you are not. For someone who does, it can be lifesaving.
Both did. As I said, they are not separable here. It is like the cop who goes undercover in the drug culture. The stress comes from the combination of constant pretense, fear of discovery, and to some degree, nature of the lifestyle. I have read similar from people, e.g. transgender women, who lived their lives presenting as men and get a rude awakening when they start presenting as women. At least they are moving toward their authentic selves and not away from it. That makes a huge difference.Of course not but which one of those two things played more of a roll?
The process of getting to experience something new, from a whole new perspective that she likely anticipated fondly?
Or finding out that the thing you were excited about is a fucking modern nightmare?
At what point should the concept of chasing the "authentic" self ever be limited?Both did. As I said, they are not separable here. It is like the cop who goes undercover in the drug culture. The stress comes from the combination of constant pretense, fear of discovery, and to some degree, nature of the lifestyle. I have read similar from people, e.g. transgender women, who lived their lives presenting as men and get a rude awakening when they start presenting as women. At least they are moving toward their authentic selves and not away from it. That makes a huge difference.
Ah, so that's what this is about, then? Whether we as humans have a right to personal authenticity? That's not what Nora's study was about, but OK. I don't think it is ever good to force someone to pretend to be something they are not. That is just lying to themselves and others. There are cases, e.g. the undercover cop I referenced above, where it can serve a purpose when done voluntarily for good reason. That's a hard life, as Nora saw, and isn't for everyone.At what point should the concept of chasing the "authentic" self ever be limited?
Yes that is what its about.Ah, so that's what this is about, then? Whether we as humans have a right to personal authenticity? That's not what Nora's study was about, but OK. I don't think it is ever good to force someone to pretend to be something they are not. That is just lying to themselves and others. There are cases, e.g. the undercover cop I referenced above, where it can serve a purpose when done voluntarily for good reason.
A discussion can always be had. Should I presume that you think personal authenticity should be limited in some cases, or that it is OK to require people to keep up a pretense? Sure, if you don't, then we are in agreement and it would be more interesting to bring some dissenters into the conversation.Yes that is what its about.
If you start from a position of there is no discussion to be had, then there isn't and I won't try here.
I see. So in your opinion, one's own authenticity is limited by the willingness of others to accept it vs. forcing you to continue the pretense.You can ID as whatever you want but you can't force the state to buy into it and then use the state as a weapon to force the rest of the country to allow both genders into bathrooms like you are trying to relive water fountains in Alabama from the fucking 50's.
My opinion is about the negative externalities of buying into trans ideologies as a nation.I see. So in your opinion, one's own authenticity is limited by the willingness of others to accept it vs. forcing you to continue the pretense.
Glad we got that cleared up.
What even is a "trans ideology"?My opinion is about the negative externalities of buying into trans ideologies as a nation.
Not about any of this academic shit.