Julius_Van_Der_Beak
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So it was perhaps meant as almost parodic?Yeah, it seems like it was done as its artistic style, to kind of lend itself to a lurid exaggeration of things. I think it was meant to emphasize how the tabloids blared updates of cases like this all the time, but when you dig deeper, it's about the real lives of real people. (Like when Joe says, "THIS IS MY LIFE," and not a "story" to be acted out.)
So there is a tabloid-like screech hanging over everything, but then there are lots of quiet moments in the film to drive home it's not really about a tabloid approach. Does Elizabeth ever really separate the two? She seems less a dramatic actress and more like a soap-opera actress.
I haven't really paid much attention to the Portman interviews over the years, so good call.
Yeah -- the whole thing with Joe that you mention is kind of showing how she has kept him arrested at an infantile state in some ways. (I think it's great his kids are NOT that way.) It's like their dynamic froze because he had the role of the dutiful boy who wants to please a mother figure and never really embraced his manhood despite having done so in the most physical of ways. During the film, we see him struggling to break out of them and embrace himself as the age he is now. The tricks Gracie uses to avoid conflict and conversation are hard for a boy to challenge because he doesn't want to hurt/displease the woman figure in his life, but it's effectively undermined his adult persona.
It's hard for me to know; I'm not around that many people. I've heard instances of slut-shaming in high school and college, but not since then in my personal life (perhaps it has come up in the realm of politics), which doesn't mean much. When you are out of school you are just not in proximity constantly to random people like that. Most people at work didn't know what people were doing outside of work, in most cases, which leaves little room for the kind of malicious gossip where that flourishes.Which is ironic, because Gracie herself seems kind of trapped in a girl (rather than woman) persona. She seems very fragile in some ways, and avoidant of conflict/pain.
The whole imbalance in society thing still lingers, in terms of treating sexual experience for boys as some rite of passage even with older partner, whereas girls outside of marriage are treated as if it is a corruption of sorts.
I have a hard time knowing if I remember other cases or not. I probably have heard of multiple cases, and have not sufficiently remembered the details to distinguish them. I am not knowledgeable about what women experience, beyond what I've read in books or things my sister and ex-girlfriends have told me. I think sexism is real, but I'm not always sure how to talk about it. There's probably a lot less progress than I might think. It's easy to present an appearance of progress, but this doesn't mean it reflects the reality of the situation.I will note that after the MKL case broken in the 90's, I think we've gradually seen more and more actual cases brought to light and older women prosecuted for sexual escapades with boys who are not legally adults. The quantity of cases in the news now took on more national significance, to the degree I might be seeing more news articles about the women using boys than men using girls. Or at least it gets larger headlines. Lots of cases where a 25-35 year old woman loses her teaching position / goes to jail for having sexual encounters with boys in her middle/high school class. Is it a sign of progress? Yes and no? It still feels like sexual experience for young men is venerated, sexual experience for young women is not.
I think the image of the pupa busting open and transforming into an adult represented Joe finally starting to come into his own. Perhaps that is why we see him outside the gate at the graduation; he is beginning to leave that behind him.I do think the MKL case was one of the youngest I had heard about, and where the woman actually persisted in it even after getting arrested. IOW, it wasn't the situation, but interest in a very specific boy.
The best I could guess about the repeated images of the butterfly is maybe that it referred to Joe, who it seems was starting to change and come to deeper realizations of what he might have lost of his childhood and young adult years.
The talk from Gracie's son by her first marriage about how he wanted to be a music supervisor, made me think that I would be a pretty good music supervisor. Maybe I should do that, lol. I could put on my resume "partipates in TypoC's 'Post a song that describes your current mood' thread."
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