- Aug 25, 2019
- MBTI Type
- Instinctual Variant
I don't know enough about you to be sure about that, maybe you already have some post about yourself around here that I could read?
Here is an older type-me post, however I didn't write lenghty answers in it. I basically never go into detail unless I feel it is necessary and beneficial, otherwise I naturally keep everything as short as possible. Sometimes I'm even feel guilty about this, like I should write longer answers, and it's not limited to forum posts but every form of writting conversations.
In your first post IIRC you asked me why I wanted to know my type. It was a question that I needed to be reminded of, a very useful one. At the beginning I thought that it could be useful to learn more about types for better character development in my books, as a tool. But I immediately discovered that typing was very powerful, that it resonated with the people around me, their behaviour, their motives (I always end up connecting everything to everything else). And so I started trying it on myself... and here I am.
For me, the initial question was somewhat different. I may have mentioned it before, I had problems with relating to other people, to forge lasting friendships, with rare exceptions. I felt different from other people around me, and had no logical reason why it is like that, and I wasn't even sure about who I actually am and what I want to value. I guess failing at finishing my engineering degree certainly contributed to the latter. While searching for things that may cause similar feelings, I eventually stumbled across MBTI, and I also needed to find a new career. My first MBTI test wasn't 16personalities (like for most people here, and 16p isn't even MBTI but a modified Big5) but some career site based on MBTI profiles. Like for you, my first result was INTJ, but I quickly realized that INTJ was how I felt I should be, not like I actually am. And that was the starting point for me to dig deeper.
Beside MBTI, I also read a lot about various things beside type that could make someone feel disconnected from others, like high sensitivity, depression, various disorders, aspergers and autism, giftedness, introversion in general etc. For most of these, I seem to have some aspects but none of it can explain the whole experience (and I don't want it to be mistaken for a need to be special...). I can easily recognize some of these traits in others, but not necessarily in myself. And self-diagnosing yourself with something that has positive effects (like HSP of gifted) always makes me think of myself as a possible impostor, like I just want something to feel good about my "superiority" implied by those traits. It sounds kinda stupid... So that's a look into my motivations with typology. I'm more confident now and accept myself, and things got a lot better once I started being comfortable with myself, my strenghts and weaknesses, and ironically it also helped with relating to other people. The perceived differentness never disappeared but I'm somewhat comfortable with it, it probably just means that I haven't found my people yet and need to do some more searching.
Okay back on you:
That's mainly based on experience, and somewhat on stereotypes. Your own explanation on why you're not INFP is spot on - nothing to add here. And INTJ's are usually quite sure about their INTJ-ness - many of them report a better understanding about themselves and their "weirdness" after reading an INTJ profile - you don't. Okay that explain nothing... you simply don't seem INTJ to me. You just don't fit the cold, detached stereotype, and it also doesn't seem like being warm and approachable is something you learned during your adulthood, but more of a natural preference. Overall, I guess there are 2 "themes" (don't know a better word) about you: One would be a gentle, empathetic being who cares about his relationships a lot, who likes to write stories about characters and goes fully in-depth about it, and another side that explores ideas, theories and possibilities with great enthusiam and curiosity, but also wary of logical fallacies and a well working bullshit-detector. Just a spontaneous idea, but you seem like a weird mix of INFJ and ENTP (at least if profiles based on functions are somewhat accurate) ... which would explain the xNxx. Ofc I don't know everything, and it is probably just a wild guess.About your last comments, I can't relate to INFP - my wife is one, and even after 15 years knowing her, dominant Fi is a mystery to me. INTJ, as you know, was my first type back at the beginning of time, but I was never sold. Can I ask why you see it one of the least likely?