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Piss off.

Atomic Fiend

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Apperently I need to take a new approach to how I deal with people, I've accepted that most people will never get me, I'm okay with that, been okay with it. What I don't want to accept is to get through to some people I must forgo calmly explaining myself and lower myself to screaming at them.

I don't ask for much, infact I've always seen it as the easiest thing in the world. Just leave to my business and you go about yours, and everyone will be fine, but noooooo...

"Hey what are you doing on saturday?"

"I don't know yet."

"We're going to a blahdy, blahdy, blah, blah, you coming?"

"I don't know, maybe."

"Cool I'll call you that morning."

"What?"

"See ya on Saturday."

Not cool, not cool, I already have someone at home that I have to tolerate trying to get me to step outside of myself, but that relationship I have no choice about till I graduate, or gain a mean of income. You are very, very expendable.
 

heart

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:hug: I totally understand. The last year of high school and the first two in college were some of the most oppressed feeling years of my life.
 

Atomic Fiend

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Thanks heart. He's actually a nice guy, hence why I still do speak to him, but he's way too extraverted for my taste, he's invited me to 4 parties in the past two months.
 

nightning

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Well have you told him how you feel about it? Not that I know the details of your situation...
 

Atomic Fiend

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The details are very convoluted. But in the bigger scheme of things I don't want to explain crap to the guy. He's to stuck in his own ways. Not that I'm not, but my way is often out of everyone else's. He always needs the last word.
 

nightning

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*nods* Well if you need to vent some more... do so.
 

Athenian200

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The mistake you made was saying "maybe." You should have said, "no" and pretended like you had something planned that would interfere.
 

Atomic Fiend

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Yeah, that was probably it... usually I say maybe so I don't have to out right lie, despite me having never having any intention of going. Usually if I just say no I have to explain myself or I look like a jerk.
 

disregard

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Say no and if they ask you why not, say because I've got better things to do than sit around at some sausage fest with you lames, like clip my toenails and reorganise my comic books.
 

Atomic Fiend

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That... is a not what I did.

I called him and told him I wasn't going, and that I had plans, I don't, but If it got him off of my ass...
 

cafe

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You have plans not to have plans. Nothing wrong with that.
 

Atomic Fiend

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Actually I ended up at the book store for two hours, spoke to an old friend, and now I'm going to drop my little cousin to play basketball with his friends at the rec center.
 

Domino

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Some people don't get "no". It's irritating.
 

kyuuei

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^_^;; Well honestly I don't know why you feel like a jerk for saying the truth in the first place. To say No is to simply decline, a "Thank you kindly anyways" would be sufficient enough for most people that I know.. I guess Florida people are slightly different.

Though if you don't mind me saying, I believe without knowing the situation they are just doing what they think is nice and right for you. I'm an ENFP, but I was the biggest hermit I've ever met back in the day. I didn't hang out with anyone or do much of anything all through high school, and it took me a long time to find myself comfortable with people or trusting them enough to not think that anything out of their filthy jiggling jowls was a lie. I really try to go out of my way to make sure I include people in the things I do especially if they're known to be introverted just to make sure that they get some sort of social interaction. I'm sure your friends are just doing what in their head is in the best interest for you. Some people can't understand people gaining energy by themselves. So I wouldn't take it too harshly.
 
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Don't you hate when people do that. Friends always want to make a schedule for you. That's one of the many reasons why I don't have friends.
 
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