The problem I see is when the self-destructive folks' self-destructiveness extends such that it is necessary for non-self-destructive people to deliberately avoid the self-destructive folks in order to avoid the risks/dangers/consequences of such self-destructive tendencies.
Easy example: second-hand smoke. The last time I checked, the studies still don't show a clear leaning towards second-hand smoke being more than mildly damaging, yet there are enough studies to suggest that non-smokers would do well to try avoiding second-hand smoke. Should people who want to protect their health be forced into weighing the risks of the less conscientious people who don't care about their health?
I'll try to clarify with a specific example I face pretty often: although most all-ages music venues in my area enforce county and city smoking bans, the 21+ private bars/clubs still let patrons smoke. If I want to attend a concert at one of these bars/clubs, I am forced to take some kind of health-hit for exposing myself to heavy second-hand smoke. Since my values striving toward personal health already keep me from a wide range of "fun" risky activities, I can't help but feeling subdued when I have to put up with second-hand smoke to go to certain concerts.
The free-will/freedom of choice arguments are powerful, as, indeed, I have the choice to stay at home. Yet, . . . it's a matter of enabling. Perhaps if everyone could have the same education about the consequences of self-destructive tendencies (to the extent that everyone is made to understand these consequences, rather than just knowing the cursory statistics as in some cases) I think I would be more inclined to accept that, fine, this person who knowingly fucks up his/her body is making a bad choice, and good riddance when he/she dies before I do. But, I don't think it's the case that everyone understands what they're doing--especially younger folk. :steam:
Boxing myself in the MBTI system, I chalk it up to the INTJ desire for everything to make sense. Tendencies toward self-destruction really make no fucking sense. I search and search and search for arguments to show me that, in fact, people who choose to hurt themselves are making choices no worse than many of my own, but it always seems to come down to annoying short-sighted relativism that I can never seem to show the other side why such arguments are groundless . . .
Annoying.
