It will always be the case that some will consider your care/affection worth less if you give it to 1,000 people instead of 5, them being one in both cases.i agree...that just doesn't feel fair to say it means less because we have more people generally that we're friends with...i think that bothers me quite a lot.
It will always be the case that some will consider your care/affection worth less if you give it to 1,000 people instead of 5, them being one in both cases.
There are drawbacks to every method.
There's a certain logic to it. People want to be singled out and appreciated, and if they think you're not selective, they value it less.True, but it's sad that they cannot value the quality of the connection, instead of the quantity of people I know which is..sorry to say...none of their f*** business.
See that's what I cannot figure out with the ENFP friend in my life. I have noticed that ENFPs have many friends and then there are those mass mails being sent to about 30 people at once and the title goes, 'To a special person' and it usually has those corny lines like; hey you, special person, someone who thinks you are special sent this to you, etc and thinks that you are great, etc.
And I am left there thinking, am I supposed to fill my name in the blanks? Or read in my name in this generic 'special friend' mail?
Is that how ENFP's show their affection? By showering the people in their e-mail list with little sweet nothings like these?
Like someone wrote on this forum, if everybody is special, who's special? Is that an E/I misunderstanding?
Yes... please don't hate me!
I see the most common dynamics to be like this, put abstractly. This doesn't take other type characteristics into account which are, IMO, just as important.
Introverts' psyches are are O shaped, and extroverts' are C shaped.
OO results in, as you can see, two separate units which may exist comfortably together, but do not fully engage.
CC (flip the second C around) results in each unit attempting to engage the other simultaneously, resulting in interference.
CO results in a solid fit, with O being peacefully engaged by C.
I like this, Jack. Nice imagery. Though it does seem like the extroverts are eating the introverts.