Sorry to hear. Hope your week improves.
Can I ask what happened?
To be honest, a more accurate title for this thread might have been "I'm an NF, and I'm too sensitive." It wasn't really anything too specific this week. It was a bad week to start with because a friend went through a crisis (ex-boyfriend who she was still totally in love with, killed in a motorcycle crash) and I was stressed and upset on her behalf. Work is a stress at the moment, I am temping and having a hard time finding a permanent job, and I'm temping in two different departments where there is a bit of a conflict with the hours they want me to do and I feel like they're not being very understanding. Actually, scratch that. They're being reasonably understanding but because I'm stressed generally I am being paranoid and feeling that they're all pissed off at me even though it's probably not the case.
As far as the OP, I was a bit shocked at a couple of anecdotes that friends told me about people being totally insensitive in their direction. Because this is Over-Sensitivity Week for SilkRoad, that seems to have affected me too. And finally, I am still dwelling on an issue which arose several weeks ago now and actually is on the topic of the OP. I made a mistake which caused an awkward situation, hassle and embarrassment for an ESxP (think he's ESTP but not sure) friend and although it was a situation where he was partly at fault too, his response when I decided to be honest and let him know what the deal was, was harsh and hurtful. (It was by email, which may have made things worse because I am not sure how he meant to come across. He was away at the time and I wanted to apprise him of the situation before he returned and had to face it. He is away again for a long time so any more discussion of this might have to be by email again.) I had done all I could to acknowledge my own error in the matter, apologised, acknowledged that he might feel betrayed but I hoped he could see the bigger picture...etc. His whole response just made me feel worse and there was no evidence of acceptance of responsibility on his part. When I saw him again, he said "let's forget about it" but also seemed to find it necessary to re-emphasize that he was still annoyed about it. He did say "I apologise" (in a very grudging tone) when I said that I had been upset by his reaction, but then added "I don't see what there was in my reaction to upset you." He obviously didn't want to talk about it further, though.
THe things said by the ESTPs in this thread have been interesting. I guess maybe this person didn't realise how he was coming across, but is this a normal way for an ESTP to react when they're mad? Little or no acceptance of responsibility, even when I have made the effort to acknowledge my own part in the issue and apologise even a bit more than necessary, and harsh words? This doesn't fall into the category of being insensitive to someone you don't really know or care about, because you don't have the energy for it. I think he may have been ashamed of his part in this matter and because of that tried to shift the blame/lash out. I have been reading up about the Enneagram lately and he certainly strikes me as a type 7 and I think that would fit.
I feel like I should talk to him about it again even just for my own peace of mind, and explain why I was hurt, because he might not realise. But I feel like that might just give him another chance to hurt me again. I don't trust him any more not to do that.
It was just a lousy week for me and when I feel lousy about one thing, everything else seems to come home to roost too. I'm tired of being like this, I really do try to bring logic to bear on my life and emotions but it is so damn hard. I'd like to point out too that I am not an emotionally high maintenance person. I keep my emotions to myself too much for that. If anything, most people think I'm excessively easy-going.
EDIT: Oh, and it does surprise me sometimes how insensitive people can be on this forum, but I can't say it bothers me a lot. I haven't been much of a target, anyway.