peter pettishrooms
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Anyone have experienced or witnessed this type of pairing?
Never would have considered dating an Fe-dom because they could theoretically clash with my Fi as I've seen with my own mother (ISFJ), despite my overall healthy relationship with her. But the more I think about it, the more I see some potential with this pairing. I think an ENFJ if they truly cared about the INTJ would tend to support all of INTJ's ambitions and dreams. They would even sacrifice some of their own time and resources helping the INTJ achieve their long-term goals because ultimately they want to see them happy and functioning well.
Sometimes a person with high Fe can appear overbearing and therefore intrusive when it comes to my needs. And I can be a little unappreciative with how Fe chooses to show their support. Again bringing up an example from my ISFJ mother, she can often badger me with irrelevant questions about whether or not I've eaten yet, what I've ate, etc. to show concern if she feels that I have been neglecting my biological needs in favor of completing projects I've become obsessive over. I can become irritable over this and assume that Fe is being nosy and not respecting my privacy.
Love languages I would assume to be another potential problem down the road, but seeing as I am a fairly affectionate INTJ once I've gotten comfortable being intimate with a partner, it wouldn't kill me to show affection regularly.
Never would have considered dating an Fe-dom because they could theoretically clash with my Fi as I've seen with my own mother (ISFJ), despite my overall healthy relationship with her. But the more I think about it, the more I see some potential with this pairing. I think an ENFJ if they truly cared about the INTJ would tend to support all of INTJ's ambitions and dreams. They would even sacrifice some of their own time and resources helping the INTJ achieve their long-term goals because ultimately they want to see them happy and functioning well.
Sometimes a person with high Fe can appear overbearing and therefore intrusive when it comes to my needs. And I can be a little unappreciative with how Fe chooses to show their support. Again bringing up an example from my ISFJ mother, she can often badger me with irrelevant questions about whether or not I've eaten yet, what I've ate, etc. to show concern if she feels that I have been neglecting my biological needs in favor of completing projects I've become obsessive over. I can become irritable over this and assume that Fe is being nosy and not respecting my privacy.
Love languages I would assume to be another potential problem down the road, but seeing as I am a fairly affectionate INTJ once I've gotten comfortable being intimate with a partner, it wouldn't kill me to show affection regularly.