In response to Night:
I'd define an addiction as a slide into a habit, which one escapes facing reality from. It incapacitates us in facing real life, simply.
So Seanan, knitting, gardening, etc are time-out activities, just like Internet use can be, if managed properly.
The danger is in over-use, where it becomes a crutch, as such - the same way someone obsessed with cleanliness could slide into obsessive-compulsive disorder - the classic image is of Macbeth's wife trying to wash her hands of invisible blood after the murders.
It is no longer cleanliness that is the issue, but trying to wipe the stains of the mind?
The same way, what are the stains of the mind I'm trying to avoid, when I delve into others' problems online, am I avoiding my own. Am I merely seeking an ether connection, because IRL, I'm not able to handle a living, breathing, irritating presence. Hard questions.
The Internet distills us into a pure essence of thought and image. Anything else, emotion, spirit, being, becomes a matter of projection. Perhaps Ne is too subject to that.
But here lies the seduction of the Internet - it is easy. No parent will drag a kid to a doctor if he spends 5 hours online a day. But if a kid spends 5 hours drinking/gambling/snorting substances, we can probably guess he'd be dragged off to psychologists in a week. At work we easily spend 12 hours a day on the computer. Do we even spend 5 hours a day talking with our husbands/wives/good friends.
How is this taking away from real life interactions then - is not something giving if I give time and emotion to online activities, given a day only has 24 hours.
Also, in effect, when we put so much time here, are we saying we're committed to this site for e.g. But how real is this commitment, given we can simply stop visiting. IRL, we cannot just turn off someone, and step back.
So how is the Net helping me learn to gauge emotional distances, and boundaries.
At what point am I growing and learning from the interactions, and at what point have I started avoiding harder issues IRL for the ether ones here I can solve, without having to make a commitment to.
Makes sense, Night?
P.S: These are just my observations based on my own interactions here, where I'm on so much a day, it is in no way saying anyone is an addict here. Except me.
