I think I've finally got it (well, for now)
INFP sx/so or so/sx?
And here are the main reasons why:
-I failed to exhibit the chronic searching for clarity and truth thought processing system when I was younger. Rather, I adapted this because I feel like it is the logical/accurate way to solve problems. As a kid, I was more likely to side by something based on how it feels right to me, and build on that, rather than looking at all the angles and binding them together (even though I try to do that now). I don't see a Ti-dominant doing this as a child.
-One of my main purposes in life is to achieve individual creative expression, and try to achieve my goals, no matter how fucking stupid or unnecessary people say they are. I mean sure, I'm always open to new information on how to improve my goals or think differently, but ultimately it comes down to what I think is right, or what I want to do.
-I know how I feel. While I can attest to having unconscious feelings and even impulsively acting on them which is associated with Ti-dominants, I always see Ti-doms talk about how they're not sure how they feel and or what to do with them. I almost ALWAYS know how I'm feeling.
-yeah, I do try to consider external feelings and needs - but at my own expense, not totally because im actually concerned for the others. I feel violated if I do something wrong, or say something wrong in a group setting, or whatever - because the fact that I upset someone I admire makes me feel like a shitty person.
-I feel very incompetent, but usually by my standards - it usually won't matter if someone tells me I'm smart or I'm doing fine, unless I personally agree (or maybe a large number of people agree, but they have to be people I admire for the most part) This just totally reeks of Fi to me.
-I usually have ideals and work to attain that (if realistic) - good example would be with romantic partners.
-And finally, I ordered this list in a very Te way, so that rounds out my arguement (actually, this would be flimsy evidence if I didn't add that I do identify with inferior-Te manifestations like harsh criticisms and judgements towards myself and/or others when angry or upset)
okay, fine, here is some flimsy evidence: I watched 500 Days of Summer, and found that I related to Joseph Gordon-Levitt's character quite a damn bit!
ENFP could be a possibility too, but I don't see my Ne overriding Fi.
Now I just need some help with my enneagram. I suspect 5w4, but of course, I'm not sure since I have a limited understanding. Maybe [MENTION=5684]Elfboy[/MENTION] could help out (though I'd skim through the OP first)