Gloriana
Patron Saint Of Smileys
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- Aug 2, 2009
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Upon delving more into INFJ stuff, I'm reading a lot about how INFJs tend to not like conflicts and really prefer it if they can make/be in an atmosphere where everyone is as content as possible. I was also reading stuff which intimated that willing participation in a physical altercation is almost unheard of among INFJs.
Now, I definitely relate to wanting to keep everyone content if possible, I do like it when that is possible myself. Still, I would say that even while it takes a lot, I will give up the desire for everyone being content if someone severely offends my sense of justice or right and wrong (I.E. racists, misogynists, oppressors of the less fortunate, etc.).
This extends to physical altercation as well. I haven't been in a fist fight in years, but I got into quite a few when I was younger. When I think back on it, I never got in a fight where I wasn't either defending myself/standing up against bullying, or fighting on behalf of someone being bullied/mistreated. It all went back to the sense of justice thing. I also ran down a pick pocket a couple of years ago when he lifted my camera, and didn't even think twice about it because it was simply "No, that was wrong, I'm not going to take that" (I got my camera back too!).
I did have qualifiers. Like I would usually fight back with words first, it did take a alot for me to get physical. I didn't fight anyone who hadn't laid hands on already, whether those hands had been laid on me or someone who couldn't defend themselves physically.
These days I'm definitely more of a laid back individual in terms of that, but I still wouldn't hesitate to get physical in certain situations (the abuse of a child, the beating of someone who wouldn't or couldn't fight back, etc.). I just wondered if this was highly unusual for INFJs, or if the stuff I've been reading is just meaning "INFJs don't like physical altercations IN GENERAL".
Now, I definitely relate to wanting to keep everyone content if possible, I do like it when that is possible myself. Still, I would say that even while it takes a lot, I will give up the desire for everyone being content if someone severely offends my sense of justice or right and wrong (I.E. racists, misogynists, oppressors of the less fortunate, etc.).
This extends to physical altercation as well. I haven't been in a fist fight in years, but I got into quite a few when I was younger. When I think back on it, I never got in a fight where I wasn't either defending myself/standing up against bullying, or fighting on behalf of someone being bullied/mistreated. It all went back to the sense of justice thing. I also ran down a pick pocket a couple of years ago when he lifted my camera, and didn't even think twice about it because it was simply "No, that was wrong, I'm not going to take that" (I got my camera back too!).
I did have qualifiers. Like I would usually fight back with words first, it did take a alot for me to get physical. I didn't fight anyone who hadn't laid hands on already, whether those hands had been laid on me or someone who couldn't defend themselves physically.
These days I'm definitely more of a laid back individual in terms of that, but I still wouldn't hesitate to get physical in certain situations (the abuse of a child, the beating of someone who wouldn't or couldn't fight back, etc.). I just wondered if this was highly unusual for INFJs, or if the stuff I've been reading is just meaning "INFJs don't like physical altercations IN GENERAL".