Try to change people toward a social ideal rather than help them grow as themselves.
Clumsy with emotions, words and consequences.
Believe things like "I could never understand you", are somehow comforting or helpful to a person.
Seem to care more about formality than content. ie. it's about how you ask them, not your intention.
Seem to read nothing between the lines (making it frustrating to explain sometimes, or find resolution in conflict situations).
Seem to be straight forward, to the point of destroying dreams and grounding people.
Seem to think they know better about other people than those people do about themselves. Even when all evidence points to this being impossible.
Will not integrate without social expectations. ie. never work into a group dynamic without trying to set it.
Appear to see the world from a million of their own views. Get all angles, but never really step into the other's shoes and see what is beneficial as them.
Don't accept help. Sometimes are completely rude when trying to show some strength by not accepting help. Could make them insanely frustrating as a sporting teammate, or in mountain climbing, or anything cooperative, ie. they set social dynamics but seem to rarely understand them.
Tend to ask ENFPs for advice and help with social things in real life, then bag them online because there is a system called the MBTi that suggests INFJs are the patron saints of giving.
Focus on the negative aspects of personalities and write people off, rather than seeing the silver lining. Or else don't see the silver lining till they change a person to their social ideal (also they believe this is beneficial to do).
Believe that the mundane is wild, and walking slightly off the path is "living dangerously".
Do a lot of dishing it out but take anything that comes back quite badly.
hmm, that's a start...