Most important, have a sense of play and realize that if they make fun of you or laugh at you when you cry at something minor it means that they like you!.
This.
My ESTP dance partner and I also work together and Monday night she and I had to block the store. ESTPs are
sooooo competitive so before we began I told her, "Alright Rebecca, try and keep up with me ok?" which is such a funny thing to say since everyone knows she's the best blocker in the store. Most of the night we then was spent trading quips about how slow the other was
But anywho, while we were blocking one of the aisles she was telling me about how she loved the fact that she felt like she didn't
have to talk to me all the time and that she was allowed to zone out now and then (as evidently a lot of people feel like they need to keep talking to her). I then mentioned to her how I actually get self conscious if I don't say anything as I worry about how people might think I'm boring or uninteresting.
Well literally not THREE minutes later after about a 20 or 30 second silence I suddenly hear her say sarcastically, "God Matt you need to talk more, you are so boring." which made me laugh.
I love ESTPs
To address the OP: The first thing I'd suggest is not taking offense to their snark and in fact dishing some of it back if possible. ESTPs I've noticed seem to love snark. Also,
listen to them and empathize. ESTPs are very talkative and assertive people and I think they love having someone listen and acknowledge them. Praise their strengths, offer support for their failures, and always ALWAYS make them feel like you believe in them, particularly when they're trying so very hard to put on a strong front and not let you know how much they might be doubting themselves at that moment (which is kind of cute all by itself
)
I've found by doing that, they seem to like having me around
