[MBTI General] How Does One Deal With Heartbreak and Is Psychological Pain Necessarily Part Of It?

[Synarch]

riiiiight. puhleeeeze.

If it matters to you, then say so next time, rather than trying to goad me back in with silly insults. *sigh*

still love ya though, brother. but not interested in playing that game today. see ya.

If I ask about it, it matters. So, you could just answer the question and we can avoid frivolity.

You like to have the last word. That's how I keep you replying. Or, you know, you could just leave. But, you won't.

 

[Synarch]

its not disliking casual sex as much it is liking meaningful sex

Same thing to me. Anything not meaningful is casual.

 

[jenocyde]

Why do you find this smart?

What's wrong with asking for the one someone should be with? Do you think you women aren't worth it? Seriously, is this from some low self-image level?

Maybe this is why some say some women are attracted to men who don't treat them well.

Comments Everyone?

You can ask for whomever you want. But in my heart, if you believe in the God that you are praying to, you have to trust in his decision to find a perfect match for you. You deciding you need an INFJ and then praying for it seems like you would be usurping his judgment and replacing it with your own. Maybe you are not even meant to be with anyone right now. And personally, I believe any woman can love you and cherish you as well as your INFJ. And because you haven't learned that yet, maybe this is why your prayer hasn't been answered. This is, of course, assuming that this prayer is genuine. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Synarch]

I am not heartbroken...I mean, I see it's not meant to be at this time...and I don't attempt to connect my future with one of my choosing. That's futile.

So no, I don't have to 'have' her..this is about giving of myself. Not wanting for myself. If I express any feeling it is because I am growing, not heartbroken. That is the reason.

What circumstances were you referring to in your OP?

 

[thisGuy]

Same thing to me. Anything not meaningful is casual.

mmm...not me...i dont mind casual if there isnt a single girl i would wanna be with

 

[jenocyde]

If I ask about it, it matters. So, you could just answer the question and we can avoid frivolity.

You like to have the last word. That's how I keep you replying. Or, you know, you could just leave. But, you won't.

we're a lot more similar than you realize.

 

[Synarch]

mmm...not me...i dont mind casual if there isnt a single girl i would wanna be with

Interesting. It always makes me feel like an asshole because eventually someone gets their feelings hurt. And, I've also discovered I'm not at all attracted to women who can fuck without it meaning something. So, it means I must be a heart-breaker to satisfy animal urges and this is not something I want to do. I avoid it if I am single.

 

[Lauren Ashley]

Who would? But them again, it's not broken or unbroken. It's are you on the right path or are you dicking about?

I did. Or at least that's what it seems like as that's all I ended up with.

 

[Synarch]

I did. Or at least that's what it seems like as that's all I ended up with.

Are you still susceptible to lost boys and broken men? If not, what changed?

 

[Synarch]

we're a lot more similar than you realize.

I am flattered by your desire to identify with me.

 

[thisGuy]

Interesting. It always makes me feel like an asshole because eventually someone gets their feelings hurt. And, I've also discovered I'm not at all attracted to women who can fuck without it meaning something. So, it means I must be a heart-breaker to satisfy animal urges and this is not something I want to do. I avoid it if I am single.

can't argue with that...i dont wanna be that asshole either...hell, i can't be that asshole

I've also discovered I'm not at all attracted to women who can fuck without it meaning something

these are the only women i look for when i go clubbing and if im single and not interested...i should mention that by the end of the night (morning?) neither would have either's phone numbers or know anything more than the first name

what happens on the weekend, stays to the weekend kinda thing

if the girl happens to be a lil more emotional or interested, i dance with her then get the hell outta there unless im looking for a relationship

 

[Synarch]

Actively flirting, hair tossing, one-eyed 'looks', smiling uncontrollably, expressing unhappiness with current relationship of 7 yrs., smiling hugely almost every single time we are together when there's nothing apparently funny or to be happy about.

Fe testing me with no resistance back by me. Acknowledging when we speak to each other, it's effortless. Things I don't want to get into because it's making me hurt. That's it.

Wait a goddamn minute. You're in a relationship right now and swanning over someone else?

 

[Nyota]

Are you still susceptible to lost boys and broken men? If not, what changed?

My guess is that she lived and learned a little. "Hurt people hurt people" as I've recently learned. Broken men will find a way to break others in order to feel better. It just takes a little growing up to realize this.

 

[Synarch]

these are the only women i look for when i go clubbing and if im single and not interested...i should mention that by the end of the night (morning?) neither would have either's phone numbers or know anything more than the first name

what happens on the weekend, stays to the weekend kinda thing

if the girl happens to be a lil more emotional or interested, i dance with her then get the hell outta there unless im looking for a relationship

Interesting. Do you feel like you lose yourself when you do that?

 

[thisGuy]

LOL...if this were a bar and Synarch and i were out looking for numbers, this is when i would give Synarch the "take a bow man, you got her" look

 

[Xellotath]

Boys this is all very sweet and I'm sure the INFJs were all
....very impressed... and... flattered?
But use your so-called rational, categorical, efficient dispositions and tell me...

What the hell is this thread doing here?
This belongs in the NT forum.

 

[Nyota]

these are the only women i look for when i go clubbing and if im single and not interested...i should mention that by the end of the night (morning?) neither would have either's phone numbers or know anything more than the first name

what happens on the weekend, stays to the weekend kinda thing

if the girl happens to be a lil more emotional or interested, i dance with her then get the hell outta there unless im looking for a relationship

Usually people don't admit this kind of self-destructive behavior. I admire the honesty, but are you trying to get some form of attention?

 

[Synarch]

My guess is that she lived and learned a little. "Hurt people hurt people" as I've recently learned. Broken men will find a way to break others in order to feel better. It just takes a little growing up to realize this.

Drowning men are dangerous. They are just as likely to pull you down with them as you are to save them.

 

[jenocyde]

Usually people don't admit this kind of self-destructive behavior. I admire the honesty, but are you trying to get some form of attention?

this kind of post seems genuine. we are an honest breed, you know.

 

[Synarch]

LOL...if this were a bar and Synarch and i were out looking for numbers, this is when i would give Synarch the "take a bow man, you got her" look

This is when I would finger my wedding ring and check my watch.