Seems a bit limited in scope, but ok.
You can apply it metophorically as well...not just literally..
Hmm, ok.
What if you are just fearful and don't have good ego boundaries?
Is it other peoples' fault if you can't exist as yourself, express your own voice and identity, when around them?
I think it all comes to averages and norms... Even if I am more fearful than the society's average, and other people knowingly and unknowingly trigger it, resulting in me not being able to express my voice and identity...it still becomes other people's fault when other people fail to recognize that I suddenly got fearful\inhibited in their presence or if they choose to ignore that...
Consider a case where someone gets fearful around some other who then goes on to beat or force sex onto the former... Or someone who beats or rapes the other and then blames it on him\her not being strong enough to resist the former... Or a country who doesn't have a strong army who gets invaded by another with a strong army... It doesn't justify or excuse the transgression... It fuels aggression though...
Once again, what makes one be the victim, as opposed to the perpretrator?
If I become fearful or distressed due to an action of another and the other fails to take my situation into consideration despite my notifying him\her of it, then I become a victim and the other a perpetrator...
What if one is just excessively fearful, and then blames others for their excessive fearfulness?
Man, that's a lot to be blaming on egotism.
I think we need to have an average to define what's excessively fearful and what's excessively overpowering for that... In either case, one has to either disengage from the one in distress or let him\her to disengage... It they don't, it's OK that they get the blame... These are all related to living as a society... Outside society, someone with a high ego would have better chances of surviving individually... OTOH, a society might have a better chance of survival over an individual... So you either go along with society or leave it to fend off for yourself or find a happy medium... Both are different mechanisms of survival... However, within the societal framework, someone with too much self-interest (an egotist) becomes a detriment to the survival of the group...
Oh, I'd blame wars
(edit: and politicians) on egotism too by the way...OTOH, egotist individuals in a society may also be serving as challenges to test the robustness of the societal framework thereby allowing it to strengthen and refreshen itself...
You think any of your feelings around this might have to do with Critical Parent Fi?
How?
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