Have you checked whether you're more Chart-the-course or behind the scenes?
It's really difficult to say. I think I'm naturally the latter, but my job sort of requires me to do some directing (as much as I hate it) or everything would turn to shit. But I still don't know if directing is the right word. More like directing via informing? Forceful question asking?
I also relate to the need to have a sense of what's going to happen before getting into a situation, though, I don't know if this is because of my anxiety, extremely high standards, or if I'm really chart-the-course. I just fucking hate groupwork, my job, and being in groups period, which is why I rarely if ever am.
You sound like an INFJ who puts emphasis on Ti as opposed to Fe. Ni users are much more likely to beat themselves up for missing something than Ne users, as Ni seeks to figure everything out on its own. Ne users often actively seek out constructive criticism of their ideas and adjust them accordingly.
This is what I'd initially concluded but Ni just confuses the shit out of me. But it's supposedly an extremely unconscious function anyway, right? I don't understand the "eureka" thing though, as I'm almost always aware of how I arrived at something; it doesn't pop out of nowhere. It's either that I thought Ti+Ne = Ni or that NiTi= Ti. I hate Fe, but I know it's there. It just feels so fake when I need to engage it, which is why I didn't think INFJ for a while, Fe being the aux. Tests threw me too. I've never tested anything
but INTP, though that doesn't mean much. Cog funx were something like Ti>Ne>Ni=Si>Te>Fi>Fe>........Se. It's difficult to tell in that I'm really lacking data. I've been a loner mostly my entire life. I literally don't have friends or relationships. I
really really prefer being alone, so it's hard to ascertain how I interact naturally with people, given that I'm so painfully aware of myself when in social situations to the point where anything I do feels contrived because I'd so much rather not be there. Meh...