Hi. Please help me find my Mum's type (mbti)

[AdamK]

Hi. I’m struggling to work out my Mum’s type, and I thought you might be able to help me. I would be grateful if you could. She's not interested in completing an online test, like the one on 16personalities, and I don't think they're very accurate anyway. I can't fill out the questionnaire for her. Sorry, but I'm not sure which answers should you give, and she's not really into the mbti. Here's the best description I can give of her personality:

• She's introverted.
• She's strongly intellectually curious.
• She doesn't do a lot of creative things (Drawing, writing, photography etc...), but she's imaginative, and I think she could be creative if she wanted to be.
• She likes stability, but she is happy to explore different countries now she's retired.
• She's a little neurotic.
• She's more of a humanities person than a STEM person.
• She loves reading, especially fiction. It's usually character or concept driven fiction.
• She's good at working out why people feel how they feel (she's interested in psychology), but she finds suggesting solutions easier than sympathising.
• I don't know if she makes choices based on logic or on people's feelings. I think it's a little of both.
• She takes a long time to decide things, but doesn't typically change her mind after the decision is made.
• She likes nature a lot.
• She can handle details and domestic things but they're not what she would prefer to focus on.
• She doesn't like it when she has to do lots of things at the same time.
• She would rather plan than be spontaneous.
• She has a slightly silly, surreal sense of humour.
• She was better with me as a kid than she is with me as an adult (I'm not sure what they says about her personality, but it might be helpful in some way.)
• She likes solving puzzles, including complex ones.
• She's very honest.
• She values independence, integrity and authenticity in her children.
• Things like wealth, fame and social standing don't bother her much. She's just not interested.
• Her thoughts and conversation are focused, not scatter-brained.

Many of these things make her sound like an INTJ, but my Dad is an INTJ, and she doesn't have the right vibe for that. She's less emotionally-guarded, and less focused on long-term planning, and efficiency, than he is. I would describe him as aloof, but Mum is just a quiet person. I've also considered the possibility that she's an INFP, although I'm not completely convinced about that either. Sorry if this belongs in a different section. Please feel free to move it.

 

[Iceblueblossom]

Since nobody is replying to this...
My gut feeling would be ISXJ, but honestly most of the stuff you said could be any type.
My guess basically comes from these things:

- she seems to only be spontaneous after she retired and prefers to plan
- seems to focus on tangible things and seems to be on top of the sensory (who would even prefer to clean over doing other stuff?)
- doesn't like being overwhelmed by chaos
- being neurotic could be in indicator for inferior Ne (doesn't have to be)
- focused, not scatter brained conversations (indicator for IXXJ or in general lower Se / Ne)
- seemingly balanced T and F functions, suggesting it would be in the middle

Unfortunately I don't see enough to determine whether she uses Te-Fi or Ti-Fe.
Could be ISFJ or ISTJ for all I know...

 

[AdamK]

I'm pretty certain now that she's an ISFJ.

 

[Iceblueblossom]

I'm pretty certain now that she's an ISFJ.

Glad you could narrow it down!

 

[The Cat]

Sounds like a solid classification.