It's not very specific, sorry. I think because the idea is so large and complex, it's a difficult thing to ask about or describe.
I'm curious about gender roles in our culture and how much we truly feel that we fulfill those roles, how much we identify with ideas about our gender, how well we belong to that idea as a group, etc. Sexuality certainly plays a part, but I think it can be more expansive than that. For example, maybe some male feelers experience frustration with ideas about sensitivity in men, and it alienates them.
I guess that I'm prone to start thinking about these things because I don't really identify as feminine, but I don't identify as masculine, either. I took a rather official-looking test once and registered a 50/50 androgynous result. I don't physically appear androgynous, I don't think; I look female, and I'm glad my body is female because I'm sexually attracted to men, which makes life a little bit easier.
Other than that, though, sometimes I feel like my brain is 60/40 on the masculine side. There are so many preoccupations that women are supposed to have that I don't identify with at all, to the point of it being a sore spot: the desires to be a mother, to nurture others, to keep a family and home, to be soft and demure, etc. I get that this isn't the 1950s anymore, but as a childfree-by-choice individual...you'd be amazed how many people can't let this go. At least in the United States, where I grew up especially, people seem keen on promoting the idea that a lack of maternal hormones would indicate some kind of social or cultural failing.
Additionally, I feel very, very strange around groups of females more often than I do groups of men. If we were a tribe, I think I could provide physical and emotional strength, but socially, I'd be ostracized. I wouldn't make the cut. I don't mean to sound as though I don't like other women, as I do have female friends - only that my observations consistently register a tendency for women in groups to discuss and worry about things I could never bring myself to care about, things I really struggle to relate with. Something feels different, like I am what I am, and they are...other, I guess.
I often see very classically feminine icons attached to INFJ type descriptions, as well, but as I was recently telling [MENTION=22067]riva[/MENTION] - I think instead of Audrey Hepburn, a more accurate symbol for me might be Mad Max's Imperator Furiosa.
I remember when I first started posting here, people regularly mistook me for a dude. Anyway. I guess I would say that I'm sexually female, mentally somewhere in between. Genderless.