*Resurrects nearly month old topic because it's awesome*
I'm just gonna talk about my experiences dealing with Fe, as far as I understand it within myself.
I tell ya Fe can be a real chore. Fe is kind of like the water in a pool. FJ's want that water to remain placid unless waves could possible benefit others in the pool and bring them closer together. TP's are in the same pool and discover that they enjoy making waves and watching the FJ's hang on for dear life. They think that they can do this and get away with it and they can most of the time. ISFJ's, ESFJ's, and INFJ's care much too much about harmony to want to rock the boat in retort and instead gather their resources and attempt to recover from TP's stepping over the line. ENFJ's, though, are deadly sharks in this pool that'll bit your fucking head off if you disturb them by walking all over their values. I don't like to do it but when they make enough splashes their time the pool is done.
As for non-Fe types, FP's are usually very considerate and the phrase "Do unto others and you would have them do unto you" seems to have been specifically tailored for them by an FJ. They know how shitty it is to have their personal views attacked and as a result they hold the values of others in higher regards, so as not to step on them.
I think that TJ, especially IXTJ's, can be cute in their complete ignorance of Fe. Feeling isn't something that comes at all naturally to them but when they mature and interact with more people it's definitely something of an undertaking for them. It's those special rare moments where they give due consideration, much like appearance of astrological phenomenon in the night sky, that endears me to them.
Saying or doing negative things for ENFJ's is kind of like attempting to project a wave that cancels out the one created by others. Unfortunately, being an In-Charge personality type, we aren't know for subtlety and it's my belief that acquiring a discerning mechanism of -Fe (as I like to call it) is key to being a healthy individual for us.
I really enjoyed the article that was posted about over-dependence on the tertiary function that some unbalanced, immature individuals can have. It certainly rings true for me. I just didn't ever trust Ni to tell me when the coast was clear to just do stuff. Ni, as a result, could only see the negative, like a neglected teenager that spends way too much time in his room. I feel that now that Se is more than just Fe's bulldog that I'm a much more balanced individual.
I used to care so much about being responsive to those around me, bending to their every whim. I mean, could you really be a good person without establishing eye-contact with those that were speaking too you or heed their every word? I know it may sound silly to non-FJ types but overcoming these misconceptions were part of my maturation process. I've come to realize that social situations run so much more smoothly when you just concentrate on your own shit and not worry what others think. It's so refreshing when I find myself having a conversation with someone I don't even know out on the town and not knowing how it all started!
Lastly, I'd like to address the topic of FJ's appearing to be fake. This is the result of us taking our roles, whatever they may be, just a bit too seriously. We don't want to rock the boat of others around us and as a result we may never open up and tell people what we really think out of fear. It's a kind of paralysis of feeling for me when I can't open up and many of my relationships end up being based on small talk. I'm finding in recent months, though, that was nothing to fear in the first place and that opening up is the one true way that many others make connection with me. It's not all about being nice. If I hit a snag I now have the confidence to simply move on and I find that many other types share this same resiliency, which enables them to move on as well. It's all water under the bridge.