I admit to being theeee worrrrsst typist ever.
But I've definitely had trouble understanding this friend/roomie. Nevermind type.
She is kooky and zany and charming and delightful. So very conscientous and considerate of everyone too. In a way i cannot even relate to.
She sometimes misses the chair lift skiing. But she explained, it's not because she's flaking out, it's because she wants to make sure everyone gets on, she doesn't want to be the person who goes ahead and leaves someone behind. But then multiple times she has been too busy making sure everyone gets on at the same time that the chair lift comes and goes and she is still standing in line, everyone else is heading up the mountain.
Or I invited her to go on a camping trip to these really beautiful mountains over the summer and she said yes, she really wanted to. But then she found out it was a friend's bridal shower, a friend she only sort of knew, but who probably didn't invite a lot of people. She felt like she should go to the bridal shower anyay even though she really wanted to go on the camping trip and even though she had already told me she wanted to do it.
And so many other examples.
I was describing a guy I've been talking to, how I like that he is a gentle person. Then I asked her "am I gentle?" and she said... "well... you are different from him. He is kind of like "well, what do you want?" and you sometimes say something like "well, are you going or not going?" you don't want to put up with nonsense".
She puts up with more nonsense. She wants to know what everyone wants and what everyone feels.
I think I like to think of myself really a harmonious person who consideres everyone's feelings, but you know, she leaves me in the dust with that. And maybe I can be a little more respectful of her considerate nature and not take advantage of it so much. I think I thought since we are both a bit of free spirits and a bit goofy, get along so well, then we are similar in other ways, but that is not so true perhaps.