[Traditional Enneagram] Ennegram 9w1

[RasberryCupcake]

Hello! Im supposedly a 9w1 but I keep getting different results for some reason. I want someone to help me figure out my type. I would say im a pretty chill person, kind, I live and let others live their lives, classic homebody, and I'm a sweet loving person when it comes to relationships, but I HATE commitments. Ok, enough! Lol, hit me up anyone!

 

[misfortuneteller]

Which of these do you think was your childhood message?

Unconscious Childhood Messages for Types:

Type One: It's not ok to make mistakes.
Type Two: It's not ok to have your own needs.
Type Three: It's not ok to have your own feelings and identity.
Type Four: It's not ok to be too functional or too happy.
Type Five: It's not ok to be comfortable in the world.
Type Six: It's not ok to trust yourself.
Type Seven: It's not ok to depend on anyone for anything.
Type Eight: It's not ok to be vulnerable or to trust anyone.
Type Nine: It's not ok to assert yourself.

 

[RasberryCupcake]

Which of these do you think was your childhood message? Unconscious Childhood Messages for Types: Type One: It's not ok to make mistakes. Type Two: It's not ok to have your own needs. Type Three: It's not ok to have your own feelings and identity. Type Four: It's not ok to be too functional or too happy. Type Five: It's not ok to be comfortable in the world. Type Six: It's not ok to trust yourself. Type Seven: It's not ok to depend on anyone for anything. Type Eight: It's not ok to be vulnerable or to trust anyone. Type Nine: It's not ok to assert yourself.

Im actually not sure, Ive made another post with a questionare inserted, the answers might help you. Would love if you checked it out.

 

[misfortuneteller]

Reading that won't be any use to me because enneagram is for you to figure out yourself. People type anyone with any form of depth as a 4, 5w4 or mabye even a 9w1. People are always apprehensive to label people that they like as 6s in any of these communities which is BS.

 

[Peter Deadpan]

I don't like the 4 one.

 

[notmyapples]

Which of these do you think was your childhood message?

Unconscious Childhood Messages for Types:

Type One: It's not ok to make mistakes.
Type Two: It's not ok to have your own needs.
Type Three: It's not ok to have your own feelings and identity.
Type Four: It's not ok to be too functional or too happy.
Type Five: It's not ok to be comfortable in the world.
Type Six: It's not ok to trust yourself.
Type Seven: It's not ok to depend on anyone for anything.
Type Eight: It's not ok to be vulnerable or to trust anyone.
Type Nine: It's not ok to assert yourself.

A better descriptor for 4 may be "It's not okay to be ordinary".

 

[notmyapples]

Based on the questionnaire you posted, I would say 9w1.

 

[misfortuneteller]

A better descriptor for 4 may be "It's not okay to be ordinary".

I didn't make these up since it's from an actual book about Enneagram. 4's didn't feel like their parents wanted them to be different, so I don't get your point.

 

[notmyapples]

I didn't make these up since it's from an actual book about Enneagram. 4's didn't feel like their parents wanted them to be different, so I don't get your point.

Ah, my bad, I thought childhood message referred to what you inherently felt within yourself during childhood, not the message your parents sent to you.

 

[neko 4]

I'm a 4 and my parents never stifled my uniqueness. My parents were pretty chill while I was growing up. Am I the only Four who feels this way? Probably.