disco
New member
- Joined
- Sep 18, 2011
- Messages
- 22
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7w6
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I'm curious what other ENFPs (or others) have to say about this...
1.) I am unable to commit to anything. I've never kept the same job for longer than one year, and the only thing I finally came to feel comfortable doing for the foreseeable future is working on cruise ships, and I think that was largely due to the satisfying relationships I had on my most recent contract, as well as the variety of travel, which keeps things from getting stale.
2.) I can't stop looking for the Bigger Better Deal. I'm in a perpetual future fantasyland, visualizing possibilities and neglecting realities. I can't seem to reconcile my ideals with reality, and this leads me to trouble all the time! I've burned bridges because I assumed something much better was around the corner, etc.
3.) Daily maintenance details, chores and general unpleasantness are extremely hard for me. To people who are better about this kind of stuff, I may appear immature or simply lacking hard work ethic. But, I swear it takes an incredible amount of effort for me to keep up in this area...it's disheartening and definitely makes me feel bad about myself! I've made marginal improvements, but overall it still ultimately cripples me because I end up in financial trouble, a messy home with piles of laundry, unpaid parking tickets, etc.
4.) I become infatuated with men I'm attracted to. Not to say that I'm creepy about it, or controlling or any of that nonsense. I just will definitely put the apple of my eye above all else. I like to think of myself as a strong, independent woman (and I am), but the reality is that my relationships are always #1. I think about them day and night and will sacrifice all else to be with them. This does interfere with other areas of my life, as I end up spending the majority of my energy on the relationship. For example, I want to take a trip to see a guy (mutual interest and some extremely brief romantic history) who lives very far away because I feel strongly that the relationship is worth pursuing, but I can't afford it at the moment (and it's his busy season with work so he can't travel here) and I'm likely to be on a ship again soon (which is why it feels more urgent now). I was seriously considering taking out another credit card solely to ensure that I could make this happen... To me, that makes sense because relationships are more important to me than career or stability, but I do know deep down that it's generally a bad idea...
Yikes, guys! Am I a crazy person? Or do some of you relate to these things?
1.) I am unable to commit to anything. I've never kept the same job for longer than one year, and the only thing I finally came to feel comfortable doing for the foreseeable future is working on cruise ships, and I think that was largely due to the satisfying relationships I had on my most recent contract, as well as the variety of travel, which keeps things from getting stale.
2.) I can't stop looking for the Bigger Better Deal. I'm in a perpetual future fantasyland, visualizing possibilities and neglecting realities. I can't seem to reconcile my ideals with reality, and this leads me to trouble all the time! I've burned bridges because I assumed something much better was around the corner, etc.
3.) Daily maintenance details, chores and general unpleasantness are extremely hard for me. To people who are better about this kind of stuff, I may appear immature or simply lacking hard work ethic. But, I swear it takes an incredible amount of effort for me to keep up in this area...it's disheartening and definitely makes me feel bad about myself! I've made marginal improvements, but overall it still ultimately cripples me because I end up in financial trouble, a messy home with piles of laundry, unpaid parking tickets, etc.
4.) I become infatuated with men I'm attracted to. Not to say that I'm creepy about it, or controlling or any of that nonsense. I just will definitely put the apple of my eye above all else. I like to think of myself as a strong, independent woman (and I am), but the reality is that my relationships are always #1. I think about them day and night and will sacrifice all else to be with them. This does interfere with other areas of my life, as I end up spending the majority of my energy on the relationship. For example, I want to take a trip to see a guy (mutual interest and some extremely brief romantic history) who lives very far away because I feel strongly that the relationship is worth pursuing, but I can't afford it at the moment (and it's his busy season with work so he can't travel here) and I'm likely to be on a ship again soon (which is why it feels more urgent now). I was seriously considering taking out another credit card solely to ensure that I could make this happen... To me, that makes sense because relationships are more important to me than career or stability, but I do know deep down that it's generally a bad idea...
Yikes, guys! Am I a crazy person? Or do some of you relate to these things?