Athenian200
Protocol Droid
- Joined
- Jul 1, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 4w5
I'm going to go ahead and wonder a thing.
See, Te and Fi, they prompt me to speak the case to other people, to present it in whatever its merit, and leave it up to them to join in. If I really want them to join in, I'll say so, and try finding ways to direct their decision toward my cause. But the strongest decision someone else can make for my cause is one they make themselves, an uninfluenced decision. Technically, obviously, NO decision is uninfluenced, all sorts of influence was brought to bear. But the assumption on my part is someone will do something akin to what I would do: they'll check with the inner judge and see if it says yea or nay. And (theoretically) if they look like they can't access an inner judge, I'll make it easy for them, I'll offer many outs, many different ways to escape, lots of reasons to say no. Because someone who hasn't chosen by themselves is someone I CAN'T RELY ON. They'll only keep going with my project if I continually prop them up. Which I can't do. They have to reliably choose for themselves.
That's the theory. I made it sound nice and lovely.
So now... someone... cast it in a nice light, please, I'd like to know...
What does Fe and Ti prompt you to do?
I don't know about other FJs.
But for me... Fe prompts me to choose the option that is most emotionally comfortable for me and the people around me. Ti prompts me to constrain my options to things that I already know I'm competent at so that I won't look bad or let anyone down.
When someone starts making an option sound unattractive by pointing out all the potential pitfalls, it tends to make me want to give up and not try, because I think about all those things and go, "Well, I like this option in many ways, but I might not be competent enough to cope with X, Y, and Z if they happen/are true/are expected, so I guess I shouldn't choose that. I might fail and disappoint someone. Don't want to tell them I can do it and then not be able to live up to it." So I end up fishing for an option that's emotionally neutral or comfortable, and that only demands of me things I already know I'm capable of.
Now, if I'm in a situation where it's clear nothing is expected... I'm more willing to try to do something I don't already know I can do well in most circumstances. And I usually try to master and become comfortable with skills in such an environment before I would be comfortable saying I could do anything involving such things to anyone with expectations.