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- Enneagram
- 8w9
and how do we do that?
Find a perverted INTJ.
and how do we do that?
LOL.. ur funny Kymlee
Unfortunately yes... and every time that side comes out of me the next day when I'm self-reflecting I always think, "Who the hell was that guy?"
It's funny how you were trying to be sarcastic but unknowingly created some type of psychodynamic theory for the treatment of an ENFJ.
for sure, i do.
The angry music thing does help.
Do any of you other ENFJ's feel like you have a completely Evil side to you? Sometimes, when I let stress/anger build up, it's like something is inside of me that's not human, its HORRIBLE. So I do my best to always stay calm and happy.
I use to just keep it to myself and let it built up and just "be" happy, but I found it that it wasn't the best for me. Sometimes you have to let the anger out and like my friend says conflict isn't the end of the world.
true... Normally, when I'm driving is when I can really vent, because I dont trust anyone to be able to handle the full shot of my anger, so its best when Im alone to let it out. hence why I said angry music helps.
Then I can go back to being happy and helpful as always.
I've been feeling lately, that I wear many masks, (not that I'm trying to be deceitful, but it seems to be expected of me...) and I'm struggling to find my self under all of this...
So how do the rest of ENFJs handle the anger? Right now, I REALLY want to chew someone out against my better judgement. I just hold it all in and then become the Incredible Hulk at the last straw.
I do always feel bad if someone is at the brunt of my anger, and usually I'm the first one to apologize, unless I really feel that the person deserved it (punishment fit the crime thing)
I know exactly what you mean, I am different things to different people but in between all of that you kind lose track of who you really are. :/ Not that you aren't all those other "masks" though, yeah weird....
Yah I know exactly what you mean.. I think this is what I was trying to say but didn’t elaborate enough.. I guess the point I’m trying to bring up is that even if the person on the receiving end of my anger deserved it or not.. I usually still question, “Who the hell is that evil twin that dwells inside of me.†Whenever someone is on the receiving end of undeserved anger, I definitely immediately recognize that I was in the wrong and I am genuinely sorry. If someone is on the receiving end of some deserved anger, I am in the same boat as you as far as a “punishment fit the crime thing.†But in either instance I always trip out on the evil twin that lurks within me.
Ya, it is weird... I feel like I have no one that I'm close enough to, to talk to about how I feel... You can get to levels with people, but there are always limitations to someone's understanding, and for me, it always ends up making me feel truly alone. I hate this, but I guess we live with it right? That's just the way it is.
ENFJs don't get mad. They get really whiny and annoying, for the most part. Sorry, but all the ENFJs I know (including my mom) just bitch and whine when they're upset.