Teehee, the story of my life. It seems to me that people acknowledge my existence but I'm usually ignored. It's not anything negative, I don't think that I'm deliberately ostracized but I might as well be invisible while being visible (if that makes sense). Things never advance from the usual meaningless chit-chat or "let's talk business" to a more deeper personal friendship. I have plenty of acquaintances but that's it. I'm quite absent minded. I usually notice people around me but I'm also preoccupied with my own thoughts to such a degree that unless people approach me, time usually passes without any kind of interaction. As a result, I've always been somewhat distant and I think people pick up the vibes and think that I don't want much interaction/am too proud to talk to anyone. Which is not the case at all but sometimes I just forget to talk to people even if I have thought about talking to them
Yeah, I do this too. I'm sometimes so removed from the moment that I simply forget to interact with people. My mind is somewhere else completely, and that can make me seem aloof or snobby. Then, at some other time when it is not convenient or appropriate to talk to someone, I think of things to say
I feel kind of invisible also...although, now being many years out of HS, I am surprised when I run into people and they recognize me and I have no idea who they are. I wasn't as invisible as I thought, but rather, I was withdrawn mentally which made me seem intimidating.
I find people don't tend to really like me or dislike me. I'm just considered kinda innocuous. I'm always suprised when people (properly) like me and make an effort to converse with me and spend time with me. Its happened more as time goes by but I don't think I'm ever going to be 'in'
I think I am generally not viewed with any strong feeling either. I'm just that quiet person who is there. It is surprising and nice when people like me a lot, to the point where I have been almost suspicious of those people's motives.
I try and reach out to other people & let them know I like them, but I have a hard time not seeming too intense or needy, and I seem to inspire reluctance in people to talk about themselves. I am not needy at all, in fact, I am quite independent & happy to be alone most of the time, but my social finesses is lacking. Strangely enough, at other times, with no prodding or effort from me, people spill their guts to me. I've started to feel like things have to come to me, and that I cannot make them come, which makes me feel out of control of my life, which is not a good feeling.