Hi guys,
First of all thanks for your answers. I'll try to rephrase my post because it seems I can't use pronouns in that way, my french got in the way lmao.
Basically there is that ISFJ 22F who went out of a 8 y relationship 5 months ago.
We knew each other from high school, we had a brief little story when she was 17 or so.
She added me in july and we had an instant "click". Both of us weren't sure about what was going to happen, she wanted to be sexfriend at first. Or at least attempt to.
After the first date she changed her mind and wanted something more serious.
Long story short, we saw each other for two months. We talked quite alot about her feelings, I wanted to understand her (I think I did)
Here is a list of things she said or acted like that I think is useful to the situation :
1) She talked about me to her mum on a daily basis, introduced her close friend and cousin by facetime
2) As I was into "trying to help her" we talked quite alot about her feelings, she said she trusted me, she knew how many positive things I could bring to her but she was worried because, even if 8 hours together looked like 10 mn, every time she went home she started to hesitate, she felt as if she wasn't ready yet, that it was too early.
3) More than once she stated that it was annoying her that we saw each other that early, because if we started something serious it could fall apart because of her current unreadiness. She joked about it quite a few times and I realized only afterwards that maybe she was being serious.
In the end, things were still going smooth but I think she realised that even tho things were good, she wasn't ready and didn't want to hurt me. So she asked for some time to try and get over "the blockage". After a week of no-contact, I realised she really wasn't ready therefore I engaged the conversation to "lessen her burden" and purposefully "left an opening" for her to "end things" if that's what she thought at the moment.
She told me she didn't feel like going further with me or anyone, that she needed to stay alone. I, of course, told her I understood. And somehow tried to give an opening "for the future" by stating "Our second meeting was a beautiful encounter to me, blablabla, maybe we'll get to meet each other in our future lives".
Her last message was "I really do not regret crossing your path again because you kinda helped me understanding myself. I wish you all the best and maybeee see you next time".
Basically, we've already crossed path in life, I'm not stupid and therefore I totally understand the situation. 8 years for someone that is 22 is big. Of course I'm tempted to think that it was an excuse but I really feel like I understood her.
I'm going to live my life but deep down I know she touched a spot that isn't "often touched". Therefore now that the memories are still vivid I'm trying to get opinions and some "trail" about wether I/her should initiate things in the future.
(Because being ENTP I get very clumsy when dealing with someone I really like)
So here is the story